Recent content by LittleSingingBat

I think that too! Lord knows I thought, "no way I can take care of twins and a toddler," but when it came time to do it, I found the strength and the heart to do it! I think it's a testament to how much Lioness and I care for each other, and especially how much she and I both care for Wolf...

That is an excellent point, tenK. We would do well to remember it as an example that we can overcome rough patches together. Thank you! And thank you, kdt26417. I hope Lioness does too, and I have complete faith that Wolf will keep his word to me no matter what Lioness does. I have addressed...

You are absolutely right-- and Wolf and I have been and will continue to talk about this. We have acknowledged that there is a possibility that Lioness will refuse us when spring comes. And I have his word that he will be standing up to her then, and that we'll find a way, even if it's in...

Update -- Lioness's high-stress work week is over. So is the family vacation with Lioness and her family (where she, Wolf, and kids all left for a week and I was not invited by her family to join.) Before they left, Our last conversation had been about how, in an equal poly relationship, the...

She's already started with that bull... during the break up she was full of "it's not you, it's me! You were great. You are fantastic. You did everything we could have asked of you!" And then she sent an email last night- 1) I definitely don't want comfort from you, Lioness, because YOU did...

Honestly, it was a long time ago, but I think the idea was that we would "all date each other," even then. The trouble was that when Lioness and I became more involved without Rhino as arbiter, he got incredibly pissy. So we stopped, and that definitely stymied the feelings I was having for...

Update Well. Lioness texted us both today of an idea she had. Of a compromise. She came home and gave me a (sweet) letter saying that she wanted to try really dating me. That she wouldn't be able to do it on her own, that I would have to "Lean in" too, but that we'd give it a shot and see...

I must have missed it when you asked before-- my apologies. I'll relay now: When I first met Lioness, she was engaged to Rhino. We were friends, participants in some of the same social circles. At the time, I was dating my first serious romance (7 year sweetie), but things broke off with us...

Thank you, Dagferi. Whether Wolf will be up to it or not, I don't know, but I do want him to have all the information he can before he makes that choice-- especially in regards to knowing just how much work it is.

All of these are so on target. I'm going to take some time to think about it, just to be sure, but more and more I feel like this just isn't going to work. Oh, Raven, I like that! That's good stuff. Anyone know good resources for "how to be a good hinge?" I tried googling and haven't had...

Wolf himself expressed concerns that he won't be able to be a good hinge, "I am afraid I will fail you both." And the more I think about it, the more I think he's right. He hasn't yet really stood up to Lioness on our behalf... what makes me think it would be different in a V? I don't think it...

Yes. That's exactly what it's sounding like, and I won't work for or invest in a "maybe" any more. Absolutely. I think this is a big part of it and, like Bluebird said, a place where Lioness is refusing to relinquish Couple Privilege. I know that I want to be a mother, and that I want Wolf's...

Good news here! While a lot (read: almost all) of those are things that were true of my Ex, hardly any of them ring true for Lioness. So, yay, not a narcissist... boo, still not great. :(

It's actually kind of reassuring to hear that from someone outside the relationship, because that's what I'm feeling too. It feels like Lioness wants all my help without investing anything herself-- why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free. And if the cow fusses about it, well, we...

You know, a few weeks ago I would have dismissed even the notion of this as a possibility. Now... Now I'm not so sure. And you're right. What a terrible outcome that would be.