Recent content by Lotus

It’s been nearly two years since either of us has posted here. It has been a very busy/messy/stressful two years. We are still living with my parents. During these last two years Pan and I have gone back to school. He is still going, but I have relearned that school is not something that I do...

Thanks. I know I need therapy for issues other than the jealousy, and that couples therapy might be helpful as well. I'm just worried that any therapist I/we find will try to tell me/us that we need to close our relationship in order for me to get rid of these issues.

My husband and I have been open for nearly a year and a half. He's had two girlfriends in that time, and both of those relationships basically fell apart because of my jealousy and possessiveness. I currently have a boyfriend, who is also in a poly marriage, and I have noticed that I am...

Two and a half months In August I spoke about meeting a man on a dating website that Pan and I use. Exactly two weeks after our initial meeting with him and his wife, he and I started dating. We will have been together for two and a half months on the 14th. Quite the milestone for a woman that...

It certainly helps to have people you can talk to about your feelings. Honest communication is extremely important when you are in any relationship, but I find that it is most important to be honest with yourself. I'm not telling you that you should act on what you're feeling right this very...

Nearly a week ago Pan and I celebrated our one year wedding anniversary. This feels like a huge achievement to me, even though we've actually been together for nearly six and a half years. A couple of years ago, my older sister and her long-time partner broke up. In her sadness she admitted to...

I was born and raised in Nichiren Buddhism, and I still practice to this day. I am actually a youth leader in my area. I have studied paganism/wicca and Christianity. I have participated in ritual and gone to church.

I added a blog post. You might want to take a look at it, maybe add something to your side or whatnot.

It's been nearly six months since either of us has said anything new here. Suppose now is as good a time as any. In January Pan and I had to move in with my parents. A tough enough situation on its own, without bringing in to the picture another woman. Add to that the fact that my sister and...

Pan is wanting to post a blog of his own, which I think is a great idea. We don't have many friends that are poly and blogging here will get him insights that he wouldn't be able to get otherwise. Doing so (posting a blog), however, would possibly require that he give more information than I...

Physical Contact My husband (whom I shall refer to as Pan from now on) has been an angel throughout our trials. He listens to my fears and frustrations and helps me work through my jealousies. He has just started dating a young woman (I'll call her Mouse from now on) that we both know, and is...

My husband (who also posts here as Pantheist) and I have known each other for five and a half years (we met in February 2005 and two months later we were dating). When he asked me to be his girlfriend, he made sure to let me know first that he had other girlfriends, and that he was going to...

Erin asked where I'm from, and I forgot to answer. My husband and I live in Iowa, both of us born and raised (not entirely on my part, I was raised here, but born elsewhere). But, we will be moving in the not too distant future for his education.

Thank you both for the welcome. Erin: You're right, I should be-and am!-very thankful for my husband. He has been sensitive to my feelings from the beginning. He informed me when we started dating (in 2005) that he was poly-though the other relationships he was in at the time didn't last too...

I'm coming from the point of view of your hubby. It's taken me a while (longer than you would like to know), and my guy didn't have another person that he was trying to get things started with. I've done the waffling that you talked about. In one day I would go from okay to jealous to angry...