Recent content by Lotusflowerbomb

I agree. Besides the child, I don’t understand his reason for entertaining the orchestrated deceit from someone he “just met.” (As he describes it) Sadly, It has negatively impacted our relationship and home life with our children.

This also baffles me and makes me question who I know Tree to be. He is essentially continuing with a situation that was clearly manufactured, and his reasoning for being in a relationship with her is that he is trying to “make the best of the situation.” Honestly, I believe he is waiting for...

Thanks for your input on the situation. This point is one of my concerns. Initially the intent was to peacefully merge families (believing the child was conceived unplanned). However, over time, many actions (and lies) by Rose pointed to creating an environment of mistrust, deception, jealousy...

My biggest apprehension was that it would become a squatter situation and I was be manipulated (by Tree and Rose) against putting out not just the woman but the innocent child. I also have my own six children (14yo-1yo) and they are not accustomed to people they have never met moving into their...

100%. When asked how the pregnancy timeline could’ve shifted 5 months, there was no accountability or honesty, and instead more lies about not understanding birth control/chemical pregnancy. Essentially reasons that could not make sense for such a great mis-timing. There has also been a lie...

Sorry to hear you experienced something similar and that it may not have went well in the long run. Thank you for sharing for your wisdom. I’m interested in anything else you’d advise or want to share with me regarding this situation.

I agree and assume this is his hesitation behind telling his extended family about the woman and child. He says he is sure it is his child.

When she said she was 24 weeks in June/July 2023, she was actually only approx 6-8 weeks pregnant

Your points are valid. To answer your question, the other party is overweight. I recall summer 2023 when I asked how many weeks pregnant she was, she kinda spat out “24 weeks” and didn’t make eye contact with me. I remember thinking her response was odd. As a mom myself, I know most mothers beam...

Tree has moved out. He says he hasn’t told Rose that he is no longer living here. He even once said that he didn’t tell her because then she’d want to make arrangements to cohabitate with him. I am thinking now he wants his own place alone, or to invite her or me in, versus working together...

Thank you for helping to validate my gut feelings. 2023 & 2024 have been tumultuous, indeed. Rose actually moved out of state in Jan 2024 before giving birth to their son (whom she previously claimed was a girl, even though scientifically she couldn’t have known the gender, given her true...

Tree and I are on edge. He doesn’t want to end it with either of us. I am adamant that I am not comfortable in a relationship with someone whose character and motives are in question for me. (No one is perfect. However, these are major red flags.) Especially her, knowing the Jan "pregnancy”...

The children having a relationship is fine, but I don’t allow my children to be around ANY adult when their character is in question, and I don’t know who they authentically are. Rose and I had not spoken for 5 months. She reached out randomly, attempting to love bomb the relationship between...

Tree and I have been together for over 10 years, several children. My most recent pregnancy began 10/2022; I gave birth 6/2023. I was aware Tree was involved with Rose, but my understanding was that they were NOT trying to conceive. The Jan "pregnancy” was a surprise and unplanned. It caused...

I a Thanks for responding. The relationship was separately poly, with one man and two women. She told him she was pregnant in Jan 2023, while I was also pregnant. I gave birth in June 2023. Shortly after that, she and I began a friendship to make the poly relationship more of a combined family...