Recent content by loupoly

I'm beginning to understand the importance of not rushing and letting myself fall so easily and so fast. My self protective guard is up now. Time will tell...

We have spent a good deal of time talking it out lately and we did some reading together and separately. I think the most enlightening read for me was Poly Hell. It helped me to avoid the pitfall of dismissing his feelings and also made me conscious of appropriately dividing time and making sure...

Poly for us means relationships as well. I'm not out searching for random people to have sex with, I can get as much of that as I want at home with my husband. The whole point of our transition from just swinging in a friends with benefits kind of way was the same reason you stopped doing it...

I wouldn't say he is mistrustful, just has a fear of the unknown. I think deep down everyone has at least a little apprehension about change. It will just take time and a willingness to communicate on both our parts to keep that level of apprehension at a manageable level. Maybe I'm delusional...

You have helped more than you know. I think you hit the nail on the head so to speak with him being polysexual but monoamorous. He enjoys the friendship component, but he isn't interested in a relationship per se outside of ours. We have always had a wonderful open way of communicating and I...

I think his reasoning with the new guy was he thought it was too much too fast and even though he won't say so I think he started to question his openness with individual dating. I think better communication for the 2 of us is in order. He doesn't see the possibility of falling in love with...

For me, feelings always get involved. It's just the way I'm wired. For him, the attachment isn't emotional to anyone but me.

When we first started seeing this particular guy we had a discussion about dating individually and he was completely open to the idea. He is the type of person that doesn't get emotionally attached to other people and for him it is more of a friends with benefits situation. I, on the other hand...

My husband and I are both bisexual. We have been together for nearly two decades but only opened our relationship to others a few years ago. In that time our sexual experiences have been a swinging type friends with benefits situation with other committed couples. However what I have found is...