Recent content by matellas

Thank you for your words. She is someone who honestly can be a little selfish but can be the sweetest person in the world also. At this point I wish her the best and hope all works out for her. Pedestals are something that people can fall from and she actually told me to take her down from hers...

She never read any of the thread. On (Sunday?) when I found her book The Ethical Slut, she said that she got the book because everything she found on the internet was garbage. Though she read about 10 pages out of the book and stopped and was done. As for her moving out, she picked up a few...

Lol, funny you say that becuase that's exactly what she was saying to me as well.

Thank you for your thoughts. All in all the few days I spent learning about poly and working on being open with her have been some of the best I can remember in regards to communication. I forced myself to be open and honest about every little thing with her. It wasn't easy but it helped make...

You are correct in the thought that me not wanting the rule change is an immature. But please understand that in all my relationships they have been monogamous from the start. More so the love has been monogamous. The sex in the end I can handle and enjoy possibly as I have never thought that...

I have been doing what research I can and reading and going over what I have learned from these posts as well. This was something we were supposed to be doing together between the two of us. We even had a meeting set for Tuesday and Wednesday night of this week to sit and talk about what we...

I don't know how to answer each and every reply here and unfortunately I think time is a little short for me today, so let me just update as to where it stands. I spoke to her after everybody's gracious comments and advice and told her that I really didn't think I would be able to do this. I...

I have to say I laughed out loud at the last part : ) I think that would be fanatstic to have his opinion. I think what is so hard for me is when I began into this relationship that I was told that we would never have a threesome and if cheated it was over. That was two years ago but I have...

You make some great points about the need for time and not having the deadline. Fourteen years is a huge amount of time but in the end anything that is good is worth the wait. As for her wanting to make poly work I'm not sure if it's her wanting it to work or just wanting it to work with him. I...

Her moving in with a friend I don't think is the most viable option. The problem lies in the fact that she is always concerned what people will think and her friends from work would ask why she was staying with someone else. I don't think she would want her family to know either. Though they are...

Thanks for the support. I honestly didnt mean for it to come out then and it kills me to watch her cry especially from my own words but I couldn't help but get it all out to her at once. As for her having diffuculty with me being with another girl I think in her mind again that she has this...

No I understand about what you said and thank you. I guess I was just thinking how often it does happen where it does work out so well?

Thank you for the welcome : ) I will definetly look for the blog you spoke about. I'm sure I can glean some useful information from it. I wonder if that's more normal than I would expect for someone's love to move in right away? I know my fiance has spoken about us all living together at one...