Recent content by May

Whoa, I wish I was anywhere more South. This morning we had -33 °C (-27.4 °F) here in Middle Finland again. Since outside it's still at least one metre of snow you can't go far except by car, so I am stuck here with our youngest child... That's probably why I started hanging out in fora again :p

Kids are sooo clever... Our oldest daughter (3 years old now) always called her mother "Momma" and me by my real name (well, the nickname by which her parents call me). About one or two months ago she started to call me "Mommy" all by herself. No one encouraged her to do that, but you could...

Oh, I know so well what you're talking about. I am also a rather calm type and addicted to harmony somehow :rolleyes: I can't sleep when there's some conflict between me and one of my spice, so I would instantly talk about it, because if I wouldn't it would grow and make me more angry than the...

I just don't believe that. I think everyone has the capacity to love more than one, maybe not having romantic relationship with more than one, but having great affection for more than one person in different ways (just like there are different "kinds" of love you feel for your parents, your...

If you actually can talk to her it's already a great advantage! If you're afraid of putting her under too much emotional pressure, don't ask her things like "what would you think/feel/do if...", but ask her how she feels with the present situation; whether or not she has objections/fears about...

I do understand you so well, justAlover, because I had been in quite a similar situation for years. And even after my boyfriend's wife opened up the relationship and explicitly included me into their family I still had a lot of difficulties not to see their relationship as more important than...

Sorry, but this sounds like being "poly" or being "mono" is something more or less irrevocably inherent to two groups of people, like being hetero or homo. That view is too restricted for me and it contradicts all my experiences. Yes, that's what I said before (twice). ;) For that goes the...

Congratulations, Kiin, on being able to talk so openly about all of those things - I know it can be a hard lesson to learn, but with the right partner who makes it easier for you it is a very enjoyable experience as well. Concerning your question: I would not prefer the "DADT policy" either...

Thanks for your assurance, LovingRadiance :) I am also quite confident that we are able to go on being honest to ourselves, each other and the children. So, although they will notice their family is different, they won't be bothered about the situation. In fact, I grew up in a similar...

Yes, thanks for the questions, drgnsyr. Logically, from that therapist's point of view, there'd be a lot of children better removed from their biological parents, then. I can't say that our children suffer in any way from living with three parents, quite the contrary. It really seems they feel...

Fair enough. My point was rather that I do have objections when it comes to force things like that. Not specifically polyamory, but anything that has to do and rests upon love, affection and other emotions. As for myself, I usually don't go out with the intention of falling in love with someone...

Well, all of this, as I see it (though of course I can only tell from what you're sharing here), has nothing to do with being poly, but with seeking for an excuse to do whatever he likes. Yes, you are right: this is a major crisis, but the problem is not polyamory (since I can't see something...

I don't really know if my family should be called triad or V or whatever relationship, because I never cared much for such labels (in fact I only found out a few months ago that there was actually a term for our lifestyle at all). I love my boyfriend and I have sex with him. And I love his wife...

This question seems a bit strange to me, for it sounds like "I want to find someone I can fall in love with." It's not unusual though, as many people believe they could find love by asking others for it through lonely-hearts ads, and the like. Things like that may work sometimes, or at least you...