Recent content by midnightsun

ADHD, food dye & physical violence... Yeah, I said it. I'm not only firmly convinced that food coloring (and possibly artifical flavoring/sweetner) triggers worse-than-normal hyperactivity in both of my children, it will also produce defiance, attention problems and even physical aggression. I...

Mission accomplished... Awwww, poor Sour Pea! I saw the pic... owie, owie, owie!!! :eek: In better news, I at least succeeded in instigating a policy change, here's the mass mailing that resulted from my messages: My reply:

It was the least I could do Seriously, I wish there were more I could do LR. I have to confess I had fantasies of petitioning longstanding members of this group to infiltrate and overwhelm the AK Poly Group Meetup and enact a friendly takeover of the forum there... it's almost never used. I...

Excellent observation Phy, and an extremely valid question. I think the unresolved negative events in their marriage absolutely play into the issues that are impacting them now. All three of them are acutely aware of it and with the awareness come the responsibility to take action to address the...

So yeah... I have been to the poly board once in about a year or more. I'm sure most of the people on here now likely have no idea who I am or forgot about me if they ever knew in the first place. No matter, the short version is I'm friends w/LR, Maca, GG and the rest of the peas in their pod...

You're quite welcome! It's good to be heard from again. I tend to come and go in spurts, but I'd like to wander in here on a semi-regular basis now that things have stabilized for us. Hopefully you'll be hearing from me more often. :)

These two posts (one right after the other) made my laugh riotously! I read River's post and was thinking, "But that sounds so complicated and... PLANNED." My naive idealist heart was rebelling in favor of spontaneity, simply being considerate of others and things just "clicking" into place...

Hilarious!!! I know I'm *months* late chiming in, but I had to give a virtual high-five to the Dennis Leary quote. I use "sub-cockle area" frequently in conversation and no one EVER gets it. :cool:

LIFE GOES ON Don't get me wrong, we still have obstacles to overcome (obviously.) But having UC in our life isn't one of them. She fits seamlessly into our life as if she's always been a part of it. The only dilemma she raises is sleeping arrangements which I will post on a main thread so that...

THE MISSING PIECE OF THE PUZZLE Into the midst of all this chaos blows a sweet, soft, calming breeze. She arrived in our lives in the form of a long-time friend who we've known for years to be poly friendly, but who was married at the time we met. She's now single and has never had biological...

HEALING AND GROWING The end of the last post probably hinted at the most pressing issue in my marriage at the moment. I can't fathom life without Stewy, He is my best friend. However the attraction and deep love that I felt for him at the start of our marriage and for the first several years...

THE BROKEN WING SYNDROME Around this same time I ended up having a short relationship with a former Special Forces veteran who was damaged emotionally and physically by the horrors of war. I hadn't paid any attention to him until he had a PTSD episode right in front of me. The connection and...

EPIPHANY PART II Within a month or so of the first epiphany, Stewy's first love contacted him to say she'd be coming to town and wanted to see him. She's married now with kids of her own. After 20 years, they had found each other and wanted to catch up on old times. He asked if she could stay...

THE EPIPHANY It finally dawned on me to ask, "Why do you feel, deep down, that you don't deserve to be happy or have something good in your life?" His answer stunned me silent. My dad and little brother (my only sibling) were killed in a car accident on our wedding night. I had never blamed...

SABOTAGING YOUR OWN HAPPINESS PART II We backed off from attempting to open our marriage, and the D/s part, for quite some time, to start working things out. During this time, Stewy found an amazing, wise, sexy, funny, smart woman with whom he had tons in common, who connected with me...