Recent content by midwestmama

Monolicious, at first I got defensive about your response, but I waited and thought for a little bit and I think you are correct. I was in drama mode when I wrote that part. Taniel loves me. This I do know. Since he was saying he just wanted his wife back, the wife that didn't have feelings for...

LOL you are not hijacking this!!! It is total drama, isn't it? I truly intended to walk away from Scott for Taniel. But I am still struggling every single day and it's been nearly two months. I fantasize about waiting for Scott after work someday and seeing his face when he walked out to his...

I get this mentality. But then, in this case, my husband and I would have been over. It wasn't him saying he didn't like it, rather he could not live like this anymore. I told my bf "I'd give up almost anything for you, but for this I'd have to give up everything and I can't."

I should add that if he gets to date her, I would get to talk to my boyfriend again. So, I am motivated for this to work. But I don't want to push him and my friend into something for greedy reasons either. I am not sure if they would work out of course, but the fact that he has always...

I have a new issue/question for you, but I'm putting it on this thread so you can know the background on our situation. It is nearing two months now since I talked to Scott, due to my husband's decision. I have recently told Taniel this was just more than I could handle. We're still going to...

I am basically in your shoes. I get the heartache from missing the other person who has a piece of your heart. It's been a month and a half since I was allowed to talk to mine. I haven't "come to my senses" or stopped loving him. I have stopped crying most days, though. I would imagine that...

Do you know how his friend feels about all of this? We have many friends that would love getting to kiss a man's wife. They'd even more enjoy having sex with her. But, most have no desire for an emotional relationship. Keep in mind we are swingers, but just because this man kissed you doesn't...

We went to our first therapy session. It was very good. Now we have to wait 3 more weeks for the next one. Taniel still won't let me talk to Scott though. Zelda is one of my best friends. She told me yesterday that if Scott ever said it was ok to talk to Taniel again, she'd probably say no. She...

I SO have to agree with not taking the first response as someone's final response! A little over a year ago now my very good friend told me she was in love with her Dom. (We're all swingers so the Dom not being her hubby didn't surprise me). I flipped (but not to her). I remember vividly saying...

Within an hour of Taniel telling me that this was killing him and he could no longer do it, I was talking to Scott, explaining it to him. He wasn't all that surprised. Taniel has yo-yoed on this the entire time. That was in early December. I haven't talked with Scott since. I'm still friends...

Joyce, our situations do have a lot of similarities, huh? I don't have people giving me trouble about it because we didn't tell anyone except my sister-in-law, and it turns out she has a boyfriend. But she is cheating. Her husband has no idea. She and her her husband are so happy. It irritates...

Thanks for the thoughtful replies. He has read through the site in the past, along with some others. After reading the "Struggling Mono" thread he got worse. :( When I come across relevant threads I send him a link to them. Last night we looked at the 14 steps link in "practicing poly" but he...

I've been reading on here for awhile but until today I haven't been able to register. So... Here is my built-up, pent-up confusion. My husband Taniel and I have been married for 10 years. We met when I was married to my first husband. We became friends, nothing more, then. My first husband...