Recent content by MightBeNormal

yes I am in the process of fixing it. I can't live there but there is a 3rd bedroom at Kiri's When Sold the things we need to do are. Pay off debt. Put a more $ down on Kiri's house to get it in her name. Put some money away for Jolene for school. Paying off Debt leaves me with the freedom...

Almost, My name wouldn't go on Lily's title It only would if we move to a warmer state and get a house together. Nick wants to be independent but seems a ways off IMO. Jolene is happy at Kiri's house and Kiri is currently sober. and yes I do currently visit Kiri's house often and most likely...

Sorry, I know there is a lot going on and I'm not the greatest at explaining. I'm Wallie, Nick is Lily's Son. When the house sells, the house Kiri currently lives in I hope to move from my name to hers. Depending on what Lily wants to do I'll either cohabitate with her and be there full time...

Lily - has a house, Nick currently lives there but he wants to move out. Kiri - has a house, Jolene lives in this house. My time is currently split between the 2 houses. Kiri and I also own a 2nd house that we need to sell. We play games and have dinners at Lily's, my 2 fondue sets stay there lol.

In order to buy the house in the city that was preferred I had to give up my apartment to buy it. We also have a second home that is in the middle of renovations. When renovations are done we will sell Kiri's old house and hopefully get the new house in her name. I have a couple of hard...

I think I know what I want to ask for and am curious if it sounds out of line. I plan to tell Kiri I don't want to spend the night in her bed anymore as I think it gives false hope to her that our relationship will become sexual again. I do love her and want to spend time there if she is okay...

I was in counseling for a while but I didn't feel it was helping. It was more like I was paying for a friend to listen to me. Money is somewhat tight with 2 house payments until I can sell the one I'm currently sticking money into to fix up.

Thanks for the resources I'll give them a read and see if anything clicks.

I never felt my childhood sucked but my mom was 15 when she had my sister and 17 when she had me. My dad was 18 and they stayed married for 9 years. Both parents drank but neither of them were abusive in any way. My mom got married 5 more times before I turned 21 and my dad never has had a...

Thanks, for the Idea about Intentional decoupling, it's so hard to leave someone you love so much but looking at the big picture she gets what is important to her and I get to be the dad I want to be.

Me(Wallie) - 42y Male, Wife(Kiri) - 43y Female, GF(Lily) - 42y Female, Daughter(Jolene) - 14y, Step Son(Nick) - 18y This might be a long post and I don't feel good about how everything has gotten as far as it has. I've known Kiri for 18y been a couple for 16 of them and married for 12. Around...