Recent content by mikelcan

Even though you want to keep the new boyfriend potential relationship separate i t is hard to do. The what if's will play through your mind. With that said I think the better ultimatum to your husband would have been "If you do not enroll in school by X, then I am going to enroll in my...

I am not sure if your melt down happened first or if it occurred when you "caught" them. However you stated that you have started to feel left out by them. It is possible that they have picked up on that and wanted to "protect" your feelings by hiding actions from you. If the melt down...

My opinion is that Ben is trying to control the situation. The OP has stated that Ben has already admitted to making Shane jealous in the past by dating people he was interested in. Finally Shane had enough and ended the toxic friendship with Ben. Fast forward to where Shane is no longer in a...

I read that statement as an either or as in "we are a good couple" or "we are in an open relationship". My belief is that the couple must be strong before opening a relationship. There will be emotional issues, there will be mis-communication, there will be NRE, etc all of which stresses the...

You state in the original post <quote>i picked "in the closet" because poly tends to go by a definition so vague it tends to avoid definition, and not being open about how you define yourself is being in the closet isn't it ???? </quote> I would disagree with that statement. First of all a...