Recent content by MileHighQuad

Green-Eyed Monster Welcome. Sorry you're struggling right now. The green-eyed monster rears his ugly head in our quad occasionally as well. We, (my husband and I, and the other married couple that completes our quad) see a therapist to help us keep the integrity of our primary marriages intact...

Welcome! :) Welcome! I have done quite a bit of reading on jealousy. In our quad, where two male egos tend to rock the boat frequently, we have learned that being able to verbalize the jealous thoughts goes a long way to diffuse them. Just being able to say, " This makes me uncomfortable, and I...

Romantic Friendship In victorian times this was very common actually! They called it "romantic friendship." Google it. There are some good articles on it. Right around the time my best friend and I declared our attraction to eachother, we would sit and just hold hands, stroke eachother's...

I am struggling with the need to behave differently around others because the other couple in our quad is so worried about coming out. I understand and sympathize with their feelings. One is a school teacher and the other works for the military as a civilian contractor. We live in a very...

I'm an INFP as well. I don't know what types the other three are, but we are each very different. The men both tend to be very logical and need to deal with matters in a "black/white" context. My girlfriend is similar to me, but is an extrovert, not an introvert. The end result is that the men...

Weekend Get Away My husband and I usually find a weekend in Feb to send the kids to grandma and take a weekend trip. Nothing fancy, just a simple hotel in a nearby city or up in the mountains. We sleep in, go out to eat, do a little shopping and maybe see a movie. No stress, no fancy gifts or...

Clean and Tidy Both of my men shave down there. They do it themselves with a really good electric shaver. So it's not completely bare like a boy, but it's just clean and tidy. Which, does make oral sex nicer. (IMHO) My bf is just a hairy guy in general, though, so his wife helps him shave his...

Wow! It's great that your heart is so open. I also find great peace in witnessing the love my husband has for another woman. I don't understand it, or even feel the need to. But it's like I am surrounded by love and instead of feeling threatened by their love, I am comforted by it. I don't know...

I'm glad that it sounds like you are finding some peace through this. It must be difficult for you at times. In my own experience, when I feel any jealousy or anxiety coming up, the other woman in our relationship is exactly who I lean on. Even if the jealousy concerns her directly. There is a...

About a year ago my best friend admitted that she had a crush on me. She was very shy about it, but I assured her the feelings were/are mutual. She is a beautiful woman, inside and out. I love her deeply, and she is the only woman I have ever been intimate with. We began our crazy quad...

Accidental Quad Hello from Colorado! My husband and I (15 years) have been in a quad relationship with my best friend and her husband for the past year. It began when my friend, very nervously admitted to having a crush on me. I put her mind at ease and assured her the feeling was mutual! Both...