Recent content by missmindful

I am new to Polyamory as well, and I must say that you have really come to the right place. Please don't feel stupid. Your instincts are spot on. You know that you don't like how you are being treated and you are acting on that feeling. It seems to me that you are poly by nature, so you...

For those who don't know me, I have posted before about dating a man I call The Professor, who has been married to Nadia for 9 years. This has been my first experience with polyamory. I posted about a scheduling problem a week or two ago, in Poly Problem #1. It came out that he had wanted me...

I think its some sort of scam, personally. He is going to send me what ever I want no limit AFTER I give him a "good show?" hahaha! I was thinking it sounds like prostitution, but I was bored and wanted to see what he was offering so I played along. I did report it, not that they will do...

Yes, I have also been finding this forum to be the best resource as well. Thank you for this advice. I do tend to find myself getting caught up in all sorts of threads. Unfortunately, I find the topic so interesting that my reading has distracted me from other responsibilities! :) The...

Hmm. If it seems too good to be true....... JQSugardaddy- Would you be interested in a sugar daddy? Me: Maybe. If we clicked. I don't usually date younger men though. (He said he was 25, but looked much older, very handsome.) JQS- Basically, you would take care of my needs, including...

I think I am doing a good job with this. Like I said, six weeks ago, I knew next to nothing about polyamory. It is a difficult topic to research though, and I feel that there is not much out there for someone who is coming into polyamory from the perspective of a second. I do have More Than...

Haha. Old habits die hard I guess? I stopped dating when I started sleeping with him, which was less than a month ago. To be honest, I do not have a lot of free time. I would rather be having sex with him and getting to know him when I have a night off. But, as we saw today, he is not...

We talked on the phone. He said the right things. He listened to my complaints. I told him that I felt that he missed the point. That he and I had plans for tonight. When her plans cancelled and he was unable to host a sleepover, he suggested dinner. He never cancelled our plans and in my...

Thank you all for your swift replies. I am quite sure that you are all right, that this will happen again. I am with you. I do not blame her at all. I agree that he is sending me a message that she is more important, and frankly, that is really not cool. I just got his response and he...

For those who don't know me, I just began a relationship with the Professor, who is married to Nadia. We have been seeing each other a month and 1/2, I just met his wife, and we seem to have the start of something special. I feel that especially in this relationship, what happens early on will...

Emotional abuse is tricky. I am a pleaser, or a care-taker. People like my ex-husband seek out people like me. His treatment of me was crazy making. He was convinced that "I did not think he was good enough" and he created a whole separate reality that supported this belief, if that makes...

Thank you all for your thoughtful replies. I am so glad I found this forum. I had a long chat last night with the Professor about our meeting and Nadia's impressions of me. I am relieved that she liked me. He said she kept saying that I am perfect for him. The Professor is originally from...

A month or so ago I posted about a second date with a man in an open relationship. I tried using his initials, but I don"t think of him that way, so for this post I will call him the professor. Things have been heating up for the past month, and with much advice from this forum, I agreed that...

I was this woman. I was stuck in a unhealthy, abusive, and monogamous relationship. In my case there are children involved making it very difficult to leave. I did extensive therapy, and self work inside my nightmare marriage which gave me the strength to leave. I waited to start dating...

I'm sorry! I wrote out two long posts and somehow I deleted them before I could post. :( I know that is no excuse after your warm welcome and your lengthy and thoughtful replies to my query. I do apologize in advance, this post will be very long winded to catch up! So, of course the long...