Recent content by mittin

EDIT: sorry, this is really long. I didn't mean for this to be so long! Your post reminds me very much of my own situation, except that I am in the place of your husband! I think I can offer a bit of insight, but from the other side. Firstly you mentioned that he's quieter and that he's...

I feel this very keenly. I think I have a tendency to be distant with women to prevent myself from even thinking of them as potential love interests. My theory is that this was a self-defense mechanism I developed to keep myself committed to my GF. It's hard but I'm starting to disassemble that...

Hi ak2381, Thanks for sharing your experiences. I don't know if I can be any help, and I *know* I can't offer any solid advice, but tonight my GF is out with her lover also. Normally I'm home and our rule is that she must come home from play time to sleep in our bed together---but tonight I'm...

It's wonderful that you're feeling so much more solid about the whole thing, SimpleSimian! One thing I've noticed though my experiences with polyamory is that my feelings will oscillate very rapidly and very severely. I remember one night after my girlfriend was with her lover, we were talking...

Thanks for the thoughtful reply, EugenePoet. That's a very good point about trying to become friends with my GF's lover, it might relieve some tension and anxiety I have about the whole affair (no pun intended). As to the counselor situation I am faced with the need to find a new one since my...

Hello everybody. First let me say what a wonderful surprise it was to see such a supportive forum as the 2nd (!) result on Google for "polyamory". I came here after typing it into Google in desperation looking for some place to get advice. I'll try to be brief but I do have a tendency to...