Recent content by mj7877

My wife is seeing 2 other guys and initially she encouraged me to start dating too! However, she has started putting more and more conditions, specifically an OVP and she starts bitching about anyone I tell her I'm seeing, not just to me but to our friends as well (we are not 'out' as a poly...

Just an update... Still not much progress, although my wife said she would not be happy about me having sex with someone else. She thinks she is enough for me and doesn't understand why I would need anyone else. She uses her other relationships to remind me that she has others who would be...

First, thanks for the detailed reply and the thought you've put in. It's much appreciated! She's always been quite honest about the relationships with the other guys, but the sexual aspect I knew after the fact, not before. From my perspective i encouraged her to maintain the friendship...

It might Evie, but English is not her first language, so I get a bit concerned that it is a bit too complex, especially with all the terminology! It seems there’s no real substitute for having a big discussion - which scares me because often there can be miscommunication, even after 16 years of...

I’m in a similar place, except I wouldn’t consider myself mono, I just haven’t met anyone (other than my wife) that I want a love/physical relationship with. My wife has 2 other relationships, but still thinks she is mono, and therefore sets artificial boundaries for herself (and me of course...

When you feel like you’re losing, change the rules... Exactly, I think she has to ‘discover’ it herself and think about it and all the implications. As I said, I didn’t understand my own feelings on this in the past and felt I was failing at being monogamous(I can’t be in love with A because I...

I’m certainly not pushing anyone. My concern is that my wife is putting boundaries on her relationships with the other guys because she feels it’s wrong to be polyamorous, she feels like they can’t be equal with me and she also feels jealousy or implied criticism if I have someone else as a...

First a little bit of history, I think I've always been Polyamorous, but never realised it was ok until quite recently. In my relationships (especially the good ones), I would be unconsciously pushing my GF into the arms of friends and often felt that the person I most wanted to tell that I...