Recent content by monkeystyle

I don't log in to the site very often anymore but usually when I do I spend a little time catching up on your blog. :) Wanted to mention you're coming up on the 10th anniversary of the start of it, and I've been lurking since the beginning reading a lot of it - especially where the relationship...

It's funny you should mention making a list about ways you're failing at life. There's a wonderful little youtube based company called Kurzgesagt, and they mostly create science based content. But one particular 10 minute video they did involves gratitude journaling as a way of helping one's...

Definitely not a one size fits all solution. There are plenty of people who take silence as agreement the relationship should stay buried. Respectful communication without stalking. Reasoning without pleading or emotional blackmail. Compassion for where they are and determination to identify...

Hi Bluebird! I've been reading your blog for the entire 7 years you've been posting. I post very little overall, and haven't replied to anything you've posted in at least 3-4 years - but this one made me chuckle and marvel! How on Earth is this the first time that's happened?! I'm so glad that...

I'm not sure if anyone else will have this issue - but when I attempted to log in to the site earlier today the captcha challenge wasn't working correctly. I entered the right responses for identifying crosswalks, hills/mountains, bikes, buses, etc - it just kept going with a new challenge...

Kevin, I've been reading your posts for....gosh I'd guess about 8 years or so now (percolations and here). It's always been a pleasure to follow along with the life of someone engaged in poly who isn't one adrenaline-laced moment of drama after the other. I don't say that with anything other...

You might consider it as an alternative to the prescription, and use it in conjunction with the vinegar (vinegar wipedown first, of course). Out of curiosity, how long did it take for the rashes to spread over your entire body? Sounds like it was pretty fast. Whatever you do, it's going to...

Make sure all of your guys are being extra careful touching you (and everything else your body touches), as contagious as ringworm is it's VERY easy to pass it along. Also, beware of secondary infections like staph if you're experiencing any skin breaks. Are you allergic to Lotrimin AF?

Doubtless all the talking has been done as I'm late to the conversation. But were it not, the first thing I'd recommend doing is to see a doctor or go to a planning clinic and confirm the pregnancy. As to the rest of it, if you really are pregnant, bite the bullet and start talking. If you're...

I was thinking about this earlier, and curious. Does DK simply not have the time to spend date night/overnights with you right now? And is that freeing you to spend more time with PK and WM? If so, it seems like there'd be a little bit of risk in creating the impression that there will always be...

It's completely understandable that non-poly people have those negative reactions, even if it's someone looking to stir the drama pot like your mom/sister. I'd be willing to venture there are poly people on this very board who raise an eyebrow at your potential 3 husband - 1 wife arrangement...

At some point, you're going to have to economize things and start cutting into individual time by bringing your guys together in the same space more often. Or move Warman into your living space. Not sure how else you can resolve this except by doing that. Your home life contains most of your...

Long time reader of your blog and I so enjoy it! One question - if things escalate and sparks end up flying with the new guy in a more than fwb sort of way - how will you handle it? It seems like you're really cognizant of risk with Punk Rock, and everyone else really. So I was a little curious...

Regardless of what your explanations are, the appearance of dating many people creates different impressions in others. Some might view how you date with envy that you get to sample so many 'flavors' of people. Others with private disdain for being appearing to be so casual in your intimate...

At the very least you know where he stands without any confusion. The only real question is what you're going to prioritize more. Based on how your posts have gotten darker about your current situation and more resolute about being non-monogamous it appears you're leaning towards divorce. If so...