Recent content by Monoguy

She is back to the "I want to be friends woth my ex." Because I am confident and know that I can live without her, and because I refuse to allow past betrayals to define my current amd future relationships, I had chosen not to interfere with that friendship. She is friends with other exes...

Thank you for your continued support and insight. I beleive that he truly cannot see his issues. Cluster b's have to accept their condition and follow a treatment plan. They are talking on a friend/professional level today. She brings him up in conversation, though it has been less than...

They have neen continuing to argue/debate/ seek closure via text. She has stated that we are in a relationship, and he has stated that he will nit be in a relationship which includes me in the picture. He has continues to gaslight, yet she sees right through it. I have been supportive and...

I admit that I do agree with you. I had said similar things to her and she had said that he is harmless. However, he is human and could theoretically snap once there is finality to the situation, especially given the amount of ongoing emotional and mental stress.

I am asking for insight, not advice. However, I have read and considered the advice given. The situation has evolved sonce my original post.

We are in a relationship. The issue with the "ex" is related to unresolved emotional issues tied to a toxic codependent relationship which she is having a jard tome letting go due to her poly-ideals. He was mentally and emotionally abusive, not physically abusive. He lacks confidence with...

I agree with you, if the situation includes the "ex." She admitted that she doesn't beleive that it is gping to happen; that he is never going to change, and that she wants a relationship with me, regardless. This includes taking steps to make me feel more comfortable and build trust, since...

From afar is a figure of speech. We have been friends for a long time with acknowledged mutual atttaction. I decided to work on my marriage, and she ended up with the other guy. I did not call all poly people cucks. I am referring to my particular siutation. I am looking for insight as the...

There have been steps in the right direction, and she knows that I may ultimately not remain in the situation.

I have loved her from afar for a long tine; love at first sight, star crossed scenario, and I never, ever had that before, and I have met a myriad of women. We have more in common than any woman I have ever met or have been with. She is taking proper steps with the "ex," and I am trying to be...

Because Inam a new member here, my posts are moderated before appearing, so some information is disjointed. I made a post about being poly-curious though I don't see it yet. I am open to possibilities, though I am not ready to embrace absolutes. We were talking today and I brought up some...

I am a dark person, and so is she. We are gothic by nature (the "ex" is not, amdnis a square.) I am very cynical, am the way that I am due to having an absuive father who died when I was young and a neglectful mother who doted on my sister. I feel that leftist thought processes have irrevocably...

I can see that, though isn't this poly thing supposed to be customizable in order for everyone involved to be happy? I wouldn't be using anyone. I would foster a secondary relationship (-if- I am in this relationship at all.) I would be completely hinest with a potential secondary, depsite my...

A brother of mine who is a swinger suggested that I keep an open mind, but has his doubts that I will be happy, though he agrees that I would need to foster a secondary relationship in order to tolerate the presence of the "ex." I feel that this posits an interesting scenario. I have been...

It is certainly a possibility.