Recent content by MrRusty

Minxxa, can I quote you? Oh yeah! That kinda sums up the whole thing to me. Thanks, :D Rusty

So glad I got in first! Kingofmice, I am so happy for you. Please don't take what follows as patronising. It is heartfelt and genuine, believe me! You sound like a lovely person and I wish I had had the insight and self-knowledge to realise how I am wired back when I was 20 instead of...

Well put Indigo "The worst thing you can do for yourself is assume that you are inferior in the relationship" is a problem not helped by the label 'secondary'. Rusty

Me! me! let me be first - then you can all shoot me down later. First of all, 'this intimacy' is most definitely NOT restricted to sex. The "amory" part is exactly the point. Multiple sex partners is one thing, more than one love is another thing entirely, although not unnaturally one tends...

Thanks Quotes: "I'm not certain that conversion is possible . . and . . In case I've not said thanks yet - THANKS !!" From where I have been for 25 years I AM a convert - intellectually I had no idea it was possible to be so loving as to share your intimate friends. So: meeting - albeit...

Haha. Thanks. I hope the slightly patronising tone is ironical? ;)

Well, I'm pretty sure my mono partner reckons she has the sticky end of things, but it's nice if others don't have that issue. As to why she'd stay, maybe 30 years together, and the fact that we still love each other, might have something to do with it. :)

I value candour, but please can you try not to be quite so condemning? :eek: NYCindie, Sage, I guess I can see how you have got there. But I am not saying polyamory is superior to monoamory, just that I am continually stunned by the amount of emotional effort my partner is putting into letting...

Hi Fearie. I'm relatively new to this and have written elsewhere about what an epiphany I had when I discovered that other people have these strong non-exclusive feelings. Don't try again to be mono. From what you've written, I am pretty sure you aren't that. Listen to the more experienced...

Very interesting thread. My wife and I have always called each other 'lover' so we don't have any negative connotations, like mistress. Now that I have a 'special friend' as well, I am quite happy to call her my lover too. Some 6 months since we all worked out what was going on, we are just on...

Hey Rachelina Can't add a lot to what the earlier posters have said except to say that you are definitely not alone. I am in the same position as your husband, let me repeat that your acceptance and tolerance will have humbled and amazed him, as my Dory's did me. It is quite something to be...

Yeah, yeah, so do I. I do feel Dory and all the responses to her post have rather hijacked Hurt's thread. It's a bit of a rollercoaster this, isn't it? :eek: And like a rollercoaster there really is no going back.

Nah, I think that's a pretty healthy attitude actually. You're not closed to the possibility, but it'd have to be something all 3 wanted and it doesn't bother you if it never happened. I completely relate to that, although we had a day out in London all together a bit since (go see Stomp if...

Are these people you already know? Do they know each other? Are you really trying to jump straight from being single to a triad? That's pretty adventurous!

Well, at least you admit you are ranting. I'm afraid my OKC profile used to be pretty much one of those. I've been suppressing what I think are poly inclinations for 30+ years now, and the only way I could think of to relieve the stress of that was to look for an illicit partner. Okay, I am...