Recent content by Narayume

I am the hinge (F/26) on our relationship V with G (M/27) on one side and T (M/25) on the other. G and I were originally in a monogamous relationship and we ended up getting back together as poly. Not counting the time we spent broken up, we have been together around 7 years. T is the new comer...

Take her out for a cup of coffee and tell her that there is something you should have mentioned earlier, but you were worried about scaring her off and you really, really like her. Then tell her that you and your partner are in an open relationship. Explain how being poly works and that she by...

I don't really fit into the standard pattern, as I first suggested opening up the relationship as an alternative to just breaking up. I had come to the realization that I wanted something from my partner (G) that he could not give - notably intellectual conversations and well thought out...

For what it's worth, I think you have a right to insist on her at least exchanging an e-mail with all of her boyfriend's partners. I believe that *everyone* in the relationship has to be comfortable with what is happening, including the other leg of a Vee. You are clearly not comfortable with...

I think you might want to revisit the subject with your partners. A triad is about everyone's needs being met, not just one person's. And this seems very much as if your girlfriend is expecting everyone to put her needs first. I can sympathize with not wanting to sleep alone, but I am sure she...

In my relationship, my partners take turns sleeping with me in the big double bed. It works out really well. We are a V, with me as the hinge. But maybe you could adapt the rotation to suit your relationship so that everyone gets a similar amount of sleeping with their other partner at night.

You sort of pulled a "bait and switch" on your husband there. If you had those feelings for your other male friend for a while, why did you not tell your husband before the marriage that you were considering polyamoury? I think at this stage all you can do is talk to your husband, give him...

I'm afraid, I would argue that your children would have to come first. You will need to discuss with your girlfriend and your wife where to go from here, however realistically I'd say that you should reduce time spent with the GF to when you are out of the house sans children (or just with the...

One of my partners is still struggling with polyamory and I would like to know if there is anything I can do to make the trip easier for him. A bit of backstory: G and I were together for 6 years and then broke up. I got together with T, but made it clear that I would not be monogamous - T was...