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It has been a while since I posted. My h and I have a one-sided open relationship. He currently has sex regularly with someone, but doesn't have a girlfriend at the moment. I am at the point where I am completely at peace with him being sexually active with other people. My utmost goal is for us...

Food for thought. I think we are in a stage of self-discovery for us both. I think we both had roles to play in our existing relationship that I am really just starting to understand. I am not sure polyamory is the best way forward right now, as I think there is a lot of personal growth to be...

That is good advice. I am trying to grapple with whether some of what happened was actually harmful, and if so, how harmful, and is it something we can recover from? Harm comes in different degrees. To some extent, we are human, so we will harm ourselves and those we love in little and big ways...

I'm struggling to reconcile what I thought the relationship was and what it might be. It is like a family member dying and then discovering they may not have been who you thought they were at all. It doesn't take away the love, care, or shared experiences, but maybe puts them into a new light. I...

It is true what they say that the exploration of polyamory shines a light on dynamics and constructs and sometimes this starts to unpack entirely different things than you first assumed.

Um... my session with my counsellor yesterday has me whirling about some of this, as I am now wondering the same thing. Maybe it was not perceived pressure. But I am still unpacking it all, and freaking out a little, to be honest.

Thank you. That is helpful. I will process this. I really like how straight and clear you are.

Hmm... a new development to negotiate. Gee has been a bit distant and moody over the last couple of days. I assumed it was the turmoil between us, and was feeling compassion and empathy, as I was almost certainly displaying my emotions with my behavior, as well. This morning he revealed that a...

Realistically, even with whatever extra help you bargain out of hubby, I'd be surprised if you have the energy, bandwidth or desire to date others anytime soon. Dating can feel like work, too, & you have a lot on your plate & you sound drained. At least you'd get some time for rest, self-care...

You are losing monogamy and peace of mind. Compersion is not a requirement in polyamory. And yes, NRE is a thing, but if he's not also putting energy into the established relationship with yo, he's being a poor hinge. He is new to this so I think it is fair and compassionate to give him space...

What life pressures can be reduced? What history of sexual pressure? Other people or him? You might need a check up on the menopause hormone shifts. They can be a doozy and mess up a lot of stuff. I am struggling to identify which life pressures can be reduced. I stripped back when my daughter...

I guess this is straying more into relationship issues and away from polyamory. I will try to renavigate to this as I think it is worth exploring. How do I explore my reasons for being mono? I am wondering if it is simply insecurity and 'programming' for me, or is it just how I am. I get...

Thanks Love Bunny, we have both read Come As You Are and Coming together, worked with a sexologist and tried somatic counselling. I don't think I m asexual. I think it is maybe a combination of life pressures, a history of sexual pressure (which may have been perceived rather than real)...

Yes, sorry for some reason I couldn't see this initially! I will share this with Gee. I would love to unpack an experience we had today as it is very typical of our dynamic and I really want to try to see through it to check myself and my roll/patterns that I can address.

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