Recent content by NeilMK

Hey RBR! Welcome. I agree with vinsanity to be careful it's not people playing games. Have you seen photo's, had a phonecall or facetime or anything? The whole situation sounds great and there's no reason you wouldn't investigate, with care. With regards to you being open while they are...

I don't think I ever meant it to sound scripted, but have used that as an example of how I saw it unfolding. It's only my objective that I have a vision of but let's face it, life twists and turns and who knows where I'll end up? That's part of the adventure!

Just as a little update, since joining OKCupid yesterday I'm now in chats with three couples seeking a closed poly triad. They are all local too. I've heard what you've all said about the likelyhood of them 'both' being into me equally but excited to find out more.

Thanks Karen :p. It is daunting but I'll soldier on! Appreciate the terminology update.

Remember monogomy can be used in a closed triad or quad? Mono doesn't mean one partner in this case although by your terms I should have used the word 'closed' I think. Rather than look at the 'girl', I'll look at myself. I would like a girlfriend and a boyfriend. They give totally different...

Hi Kinda, I apologise for being disrespectful and agree. I'll reign it in, however I'm being quite clearly attacked by several members so feel justified in defending myself, however I should use more grown up words. Thank you for the slap. Here's a thread from a new member that is in a closed...

Hi FA, In the short time I've been on this forum it has become abundantly clear that many of your members are very fixed in their view of what poly is. Their desire to put me in a box for clarification is understandable but not useful. While it's accurate that I seek 'a polyamorous closed...

Interesting as I just posted on a new thread on this forum from a lady who's in a closed triad, exactly the same as I've been seeking. Dagferi, there is a huge difference between using your experience to provide advice and support to saying 'it doesn't work for me so won't work for you'. Some of...

Hi FFMCT! I'm seeking a similar thing myself at the moment and getting crucified on this forum by a few individual telling me it's impossible. I don't have children at home and your thread has given me incredible inspiration that it can be found with patience, communication and hard work ;)...

I think you and the LGBTQQIP2SAA community is obssessed with terms and boxes personally. To 'force' explorers to fit into boxes is very shortsighted, irresponsible, unhealthy and betrays everything about multi-faceted sexuality. Once again, your own experience of poly has nothing to do with my...

Ooof, I really don't want conflict here but... This doesn't sound different from any monostraight relationship? yes but there are more chances of conflict as 4 people have to get along. Not just 2. Fine it's harder to find. I get it. Move on. This only indicates a lack of communication and...

In order to find a closed quad you have to start somewhere. Finding like minded people to begin with makes sense. It's no different to being in an open relationship and then deciding you'd like to settle down with 'one' of your partners.

Hi Meera! That's a super response. Intelligent, realistic and clear, thank you! When I first made this post I mentioned my knowledge and experience of poly was very little (although I am in a V with a Poly married woman currently). In my head it would go more like this; 1) Start dating a...

I'm not opposed to an open polycule, in fact a quad in my mind is likely to start that way anyway rather than moving 3 people in on day one and expecting it to work, but I wouldn't do that in a mono relationship either! I am however super glad you've found something similar to what I seek with a...

Nor did I! :eek: