Recent content by NeverMoreMonkey

Keep reading, there are a lot of useful threads on here for new people

I don't think there is any one "Right" way to do it. I was suggesting you do it together, since you want to pick. You can't know if sparks are going to fly for him over what you deem acceptable. My husband didn't, pick, but did give an OK for the person I'm dating. And his OK was just over the...

Maybe you guys could look together, since he already wants your help. Always be honest with how you're feeling. Lay out some ground rules, make sure you are both comfortable. Decide how much you want his dating life to mix with the life he has with you. do you want to be friends with his...

Ive posted a little bit, and have lurked around even more. Im pretty new to the poly lifestyle, at least for myself personally. Spent over a decade with Mom and Stepdad being poly, so its not an entirely foreign concept! My husband is more interested in swinging, only wanting meaningless sex...

Oldie but goodie: Grumpy old men! (This movie is like chicken soup for me. Ive even watched it in the bath tub after a rough day)

Thank you for sharing, tenK! Ive already told my mom and step dad. And my closest friend. Im not aching to run around and inform everyone, just considering the future and questions/reactions from people. I know we are no where near sharing it with people, but I would like to in the future. Im...

Thanks! I'm sorry I didn't mean to double post

I was hoping to hear people's experiences with it. Not necessarily get advice. I just wanted to include my own so as to share too. No we aren't all over each other in public, which I thought was implied by saying we are trying to stay low key and not draw attention to ourselves..

I was hoping to see how other people crossed this bridge with their fam/friends/work as far as when you first told people, or how you tell new people. How you handled judgement, or utter objection in the worst case scenerio. Personally, my mom and step dad were poly together most of my life...

Thanks! I got confused by the "V" part. I assumed they meant the fact I have a vagina. Lol *facepalm*

I was under the impression that a hinged relationship was when not everyone is intimate with each other, and one person is a hinge between the other two, not dependent on gender. Maybe I'm just confused. lol. I'd love to have us all doing things together. I know it's not a requirement, but it...

Just another note, I appreciate the positive to negative ratio of replies. I also asked a poly forum on reddit and a lot of people decided that I was betraying my husband because of what he forbade (which he didn't), and that I was just trying to cheat on him with his permission. You can't...

Also, as far as my parents go, he knows and is ok with how their relationship worked out. Unfortunately, they are no longer together. (My step-dad is still with the girlfriend though.) Honestly, I think a lot of that was because of my mother's mental illness being in a very rough spot at the...

Sorry for the long wait. I hate using my phone to reply, so just waited until I had time for the computer. The only limits we had specified before were tentative to the idea of having an open relationship at all. They weren't demands or ultimatums. We just wanted to be sure we didn't hurt each...

Thank you all for the warm welcome!