Recent content by New2polydude

Is it before anyone has found a potential metamour or after? Does the answer to that question affect the likelihood of success for the change?

Seems to me that poly has to be a 3 (or more) connection, with the second or third tier respecting the boundaries of the first....crashing the party is not poly.

Hmmm...paying $2k for a ticket then hopping on a plane to fly 15k miles to be with an unknown person who has probably already turned you on digitally! Some people might see this as being very romantic and exciting..more of a 7ish year itch kind of thing and not an enm relationship...but using...

Partly that, but mostly the partner who didn't bring up the idea of trying poly relationships. For example if John (fictitious person) talks to his partner about having a poly relationship, his partner might think "I am not pretty/sexy/interesting enough for John, so he wants to go outside of...

Thanks for sharing Kevin T. I use the word substandard because when I have talked to partners about this idea, that was one of the words they used - certainly the idea, if not the word.

When I was a child, I read some "soft porn" novels about women who would freely "sleep around" (the phrase used then) so I guess I grew up not expecting monogamy - at least informally. In the early 80s, I read a small book "Open Marriage", that both scared and excited me, but I soon discovered...

The typical post I read starts like this: "We had been together for 10 years when..." or " we had been married for 14 years when..." the narrative makes it seem like someone is substandard/inadequate. Has anyone started a relationship with a discussion about poly? Maybe not the first date, but...

Did you feel more comfortable when she was dating 2 people, as opposed to only one? Once she started with her first partner, did you do anything to "perk up" your relationship with her? Speaking more about emotions and romance, not just sexual.

I have not had personal experience, have not found the right partner, have been lurking for 10+ years, have been reading. I am certainly open to anything you have to say. My comments were an attempt to help the OP look at things from a different perspective, if appropriate.

I'm sorry for your situation. It is interesting - most men I know would be ecstatic if wife offered a wmw. I am a bit more like you - one woman is enough trouble ;) is it possible that in the past couple of years, your uncomfortableness with the situation in your marriage has caused you to...

Many people are ashamed of some aspect of their physical appearance, especially weight. Has having poly relationships helped you with this? or has body shame kept you from taking the plunge?

...but yes, I am also into the relational side of multiple partners, not just the physical...maybe the relational side is becoming more important.

Platonic relationships....easy when I was 10...12...15...but once I crossed the line, I find that it is very difficult. Sex is like a third dimension in a very close relationship when you feel that connection, making it more real and deep and meaningful. A gf once asked me if she could casually...

I am probably older than most on this forum, so please forgive me if I have inaccurate ideas about men and women. I fell into this kind of thinking...when I was 10, I read many of my friend's mother's books while having sleep overs at his house. All of her books were about non-traditional...

It is interesting to read such a structured approach to this topic...I fell into this kind of thinking...when I was 10, I read many of my friend's mother's books while having sleep overs at his house. All of her books were about non-traditional roles in sex, i.e. the initiator, having a husband...