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Well, it's been a week and many changes. My wife finally realized that forcing this relationship was not in the best long term interests of our relationship. She then told me she was ending the relationship with "R" and that she would own the decision. At first I was relieved but then I...

Thanks for all the advice. I think you are right GalaGirl. I really appreciate you breaking it down for me. I was fearful of how badly she treated me the first time I asked to slow down so I was tying to avoid putting back on me but I now see that if I can weather the storm, this is probably...

Thanks for the replies. It is difficult, I agree. And before you think we are totally crazy, not all kids live with us at all times and they are somewhat older now but we still have a busy household and the weekday nights usually don't slow down till after 11pm when we are exhausted. That's...

Need some advice from those of you who have been through some of the pain and joys of trying to convert from monogamy to polyamory. For the back story, please see this thread. We were having an escalating set of fights because of her saying she wanted to have another man in her life and there...

EDFCMin only I'm trying to communicate with her and trying to find out where she stands vis-a-vis our marriage but I get conflicting statements. When she's more calm and rational, she does say maintaining our marriage is important but when she is spun up and wanting to restart with him NOW...

I don't know what her plans are with the marriage. I was essentially told that's she's going to restart with him and I can either support her or not. However, when I told her I feel like I have an emotional gun to my head, she backed off somewhat.

Thanks for the reply. I've been begging to go to therapy either together or individually. She refuses. I think at some level she believes that a therapist will tell her to stop pursuing her BF until she is in a better place and can then evaluate things not being in the middle of crazy. She...

All, New to the forum and thanks in advance for reading. It’s a long post so sorry but writing it was somewhat cathartic. I am at a crossroads in my relationship. We have been married 10 year and have dabbled in some soft swing but our boundaries were always: 1. We play together 2. No...