Recent content by niceinjeans

Well, yes and no. You and I may see it as contradictory that she allows her bf to limit her sexual expressions to just women; however, this model may be exactly what she desires. I know other poly women that are solely committed to their male partners, but still desire to be with a woman. So all...

Polyamory is what you make of it. There are single polys, married dyad polys, triads, quads, vees, etc etc. Do what makes you all happy. Welcome to the forums. NIJ

There is nothing wrong with your approach to sex (in so far as I can tell from this one post). I agree that threesomes can be emotionally disconnected, especially if all are not... ahem... involved. Yes, absolutely. I cared for my wife's ex-girlfriend very much, but she and I had a non-sexual...

What you are seeking is rare. I believe SchrodingersCat is suggesting the restrictions you are placing on potential partners will severely limit your available dating pool; this is further complicated by the fact that most new couples to poly are seeking the exact same unicorn situation. All...

take a deep breath While I have not been in this exact situation before, I do feel that I may have some constructive advice from a married male point of view. First and foremost, I would suggest taking an over the counter pregnancy test. There is no sense in breaking yourself down and causing...

take care of you I would do what is right for you. I know you do not want to cause any issues between your two lovers who still want to be involved. If you do break up with your gf, I would absolutely recommend that one of you move out. How would sleeping arrangements work in a one bedroom...

my impressions I agree with what km34 has said. I specifically want to highlight the above. My wife and I started down this road a few years ago and quickly learned it is smoother going dating separately. While we are not opposed to triads or quads or any other configuration, we do not...

SLS is a lifestyles site. You likely will not find emotional connections there. NIJ

Some people seem to be hardwired for monogamy. It is his right to have a monogamous relationship just as much as it is your right to have a polyamorous one. I would say that "you can't have your cake and eat it too" may apply to your relationship with him, but there are many people who are...

Your English is certainly better than my non-existent grasp of Portuguese. :) I believe you are accurately expressing yourself, and most people will ask if they have a question about something you write.

relationship llc I do not want to threadjack your thread, but I believe what I have to say is directly related and may be helpful. There has been some great information about recognized marriage in this thread. Has anyone looked into forming an LLC to provide financial, insurance, and other...

welcome First, be thankful you chose to use protection; I hope your future STD/STI test results show negative for HIV due to that decision. I always have a very frank and honest discussion with any partner about sexual health before becoming physically involved. However, even results can be...

Hear, hear! Soapbox or not, I whole-heartedly agree.

This is also a huge red flag for me. I never understand why anyone would want to drastically change their appearance at the request of a partner especially when that request is grounded in looking like another person. That really bothers me.

welcome I completely agree that you are not having your relationship needs met. I further agree that open and honest communication with your husband is critical at this point and that you will likely benefit from couples counseling. I would like to add one thing to what dingedheart has said...