Recent content by Nighthorse

Thanks for the support One thing I have learned by being a part of the sex-positive community is that, when it comes to safety, it pays to be explicit. Safer sex is sexy.

So, recently, my partner and I, whom I will call S, became fluid-bonded. Yay. But S had a different perception than I did regarding what constituted fluid-exchange and had oral sex with someone, without a barrier, outside a night club. S had met this person before, once, but has never had...

Asking for what you want There's nothing wrong with wanting a relationship that your boyfriend has nothing to do with. He should not assume the people you date will have sex with him. If that is what he thought this relationship style was--a chance for him to have a threesome--then he did not...

Why not tell us more about yourself? I see what you're looking for, but who are you?

Finally, free again. I was single, dating, and I met someone who is looking for the same things I am. The only trouble is that we both live here, in this tiny, backwards city with its limited dating pool already exhausted. That leaves just the travelers and exes. We are still exploring our...

So you got caught with a flat... Well, how 'bout that. I recently asserted my need for polyamory in a monogamous relationship I've been in for nine months. It's a bit different, because I'd told this person from the beginning that I don't believe in monogamy. The promise was that my partner...

Sounds complicated. I don't know how a person "stumbles across" another person's email. That sounds like snooping, to me. In an ideal world, we could talk to our partners about our needs and deeds and desires without turning into secret agents. It sounds like a terrible way to find out about...

LDR can be fine.... I know this feeling. I was in a LDR with someone living in another country half-way around the world. It's challenging. We'd talk by Skype a couple times per month and send pages-long emails about our days and our dates to each other. I think being polyamorous made the...

Is compersion real? Yes. So is jealousy. I usually don't feel jealous, but it does manifest occasionally. I recognize jealousy as part of the culture in which I was raised and compersion as part of the culture to which I wish to belong. When you wish for others what you wish for yourself...

Questions Most of that information is in my profile. I'd repost it, but I only want registered users to be able to know that information. My age varies depending upon who is looking. Let's just say I can buy alcohol but rarely do so. Bouncers take an extra hard look at me before letting me...

Good point Good point: pursuing romance without discussion first is dishonest. But every couple has different expectations. Asking if she's interested in a romantic relationship is not the same as an emotional affair. What if she says no? No use asking your boyfriend for an open...

Always Polyamorous, often Single, seldom Monogamous but always Honest, trying to get back to that relationship space where jealousy is not celebrated but altruism is--the place we once and always belonged. Every love is different, every time. I try to find the true family I feel destined to...

Confused? Doesn't sound like it. You seem to have handled it well. You're attracted and she's of the right orientation. If I gave advice, it would be to explore that relationship with her first, or else it may only be just a "sex thing", and probably not the best kind of sex. If I were in...

Send me a message. I'll probably respond to that.