Recent content by ninjagirl

I actually have read "More Than Two". It was alright. I agreed with multiple things mentioned in there but the examples, situations, etc didn't quite apply to me/didn't help. I'm actually not suggesting that people go jump into a threesome to start poly. And I didn't. It just stereotypically, I...

Did the husband have difficulty adjusting?

You made it sound like you had no troubles. :) So matter of fact. Wish I was there already.

Did you guys both started dating people at the same time? Sometimes when one person gets dates and the other doesn't as fast, there are issues. You mentioned that you had a learning curve. How long did it take for you to adjust?

I was curious as to how many people on here might have opened up a monogamous marriage or if the relationships just started out as poly. If you did open up a marriage, did you go through a stage of "let's do a 3-some together"? Mess it up (since, let's face it, starting with a triad is super...

I guess that was implied. If we didn't have a strong bond, I probably won't be bothered by any of this. She has said that she loves me and I the same. Though maybe I'm a cliche.. given she is the first girl I've kissed. They say your first girl girl relationship tends to be very intense. We...

Thank you for everyone's thoughts. It has help me clarified mine. I guess my jealousy was just warning me that I'm getting in too deep while she wasn't. And even though now we've agreed to try to work things out and for me to be more "important" to her, I wonder if it is really what she wants...

I never meant to imply that jealousy was bad. Like any emotion - it just is and it has a purpose. Though it feels much better to not be jealous. 😜 That is probably true - my jealousy is warning me that I'm getting to close when I'm just a fuck buddy to her. Even thinking that hurts. Ah, well...

You ask some good questions. I don't think time is the issue. I probably can find another girlfriend if I wanted to, but I have my husband to consider. He is adjusting too. So very likely if we break up, I probably won't look for another girlfriend. At least I'll try to see if I'll be happy...

I guess I'm trying to listen to my inner voice and I'm not figuring it out yet. Thought maybe reading some root causes from others or suggestions might get something to resonate with me and help me find out. I'm so new to poly that I don't really know what to ask/etc. I think that is partly...

These are concurrent BFs. She does spend "enough" time with me since my time is pretty constrained with kids & husband. We're not seeing each other any less because of these relationships (at least not yet). One of her bfs, she only sees once a month or so. Not sure of the others.

So I kinda feel into polyamory by accident and recently I've been struggling with jealousy but I can't quite figure out why I'm jealous. I would love to get some perspective from others. First some background - I've been with my husband/boyfriend for almost 18 years. Around a year ago, I felt...