Recent content by nllswing

As mentioned above, Fetlife is a good start. I recommend finding and attending a few "munches" in your area. No need to limit to just those labeled as "poly." The general kink/fetish/BDSM community has a large percentage of poly people. Also, it is worth checking out the Human Awareness...

Of course. It just depends on what you mean by "primary." If it means one's most important relationship, yes it is possible that your most important relationship with a partner happens to be with somebody who has a different relationship that they deem most important. I knew one such case: an...

Single people have easier time to host, but the there is also the increased risk of drama. Currently, I prefer play partners who are in stable relationships or identify as solo-poly. When none of us can host, we have to resort to renting a room in a hotel/motel. Still, my favorite is to have...

It is difficult Journey, The situation you are in is extremely stressful, difficult, and with long-lasting consequences, regardless of what path you choose to follow. After reading all the pages of this topic, and seeing the heated discussion, I have a few observations which you might find...

While not perfect, the study asks a number of useful quiestions, the answers to which could yield much needed initial information on a topic not much discussed. I have about 100 acquaintances from the poly/swing/fetish/kink/BDSM community and know a bit closer around 30 of them. Aside from a...

re "I've always been frugal and he's always been a spender." - this alone sums the entire issue. You are not financially compatible so long as the quoted remains true. This is not a poly issue. If it weren't for his friend, it would have been on something else, like hobbies and toys...

Update Tonight we talked more, both before and during cuddling. She told me that she was at the verge of exhaustion from work and work-related stress. As a result, she needed all the support I can provide. This one I can relate to and believe to be true. Her last three months have been...

More information Marcus, just FYI and for clarity I am adding a link to my wife's thread on this board from a while ago when we began seriously discussing our plan to have some sort of an open relationship. http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=2038 By the way, I plan to show her...

Thank you for the thoughtful post, Kevin. Just for the record, divorce is not even on the table. We have reached too far together to give it up so easily. Of course, everything is possible, but our marriage has to take a lot more until it reaches the breaking point. As for 2.B, I posted it...

Thank you all for the comments, "If that's true, how long are you going to deal with option 2.A. before you go ahead and take option 2.C.?" - Why just 2.C? After 2.A. becomes unbearable, 2.B. is also an option, even though I don't want ever to do it. As we know, the threat is often stronger...

Hi folks, I enjoy reading these boards, even though I rarely post. Usually by the time I read a thread, all good advice has been given. Tonight, I am coming here to share my pain. I am not sure if there can be a solution to my problem, but at least I will give it a try. My wife and I have...

" Would you support a poly minded presidential candidate?" - Sure, so long as I agree with the bulk of remaining issues. "What can we do to improve the world around us?" - interesting thought. What remains is whether the world wants to be improved. "I am vegan." - What do you think of meat...

Priceless!!! That must be used.

Whatever your approach is, just make sure not to scare them. I'd avoid any "label" words, such as "polyamory." Maybe they are interested more in "play," as understood by swingers, than "polyamory" like in "Let's form a quad." Many folks who actually practice some form of polyamory are scared...

torontopolyguy, Welcome to the forums :) It is easier said than done, but don't let the frustration show in your communication with potential dates. I am not sure what you have tried, but here are a couple of ides. 1. Go with your girlfriend to a "clothes optional" resort. Even if you are...