Recent content by Nonentity

I do think fair is still an important concept, but it is not the same as equal or equitable. An arrangement can be perfectly equal and totally unfair. OPPs often seem to be defended because they are equal "we can both date other women" but are only fair if that meets the needs of both parties...

We are fairly new to partnered non-monogamy and do not have nearly the level of experience of most of the folks here. And I am avoiding using the term polyamory, because falling in love is not a goal for us- but is recognized as a possibility and is not an automatic end to everything. There...

Thank you Icesong. That is exactly what I was looking for.

As a new member of this forum and someone fairly new to polyamory, I don't have any preference on whether a new sub-forum is created or not. I DO want to hear from people who used to be poly and are not now, though. Too many forums become echo chambers where everyone posting shares the same...

Gmeter, thanks for the account of how it worked in your marriage. Our situation is a little different, in that we are opening up on both sides of the marriage. But if you have an on-going blog here, I would like to read yours. We seem to have some similarities in that the idea of my wife...

I love this thread. This is still very new to us as a couple, and we keep running across these moments constantly. Some of my "you know you are poly when" moments in the last month have been: -Showing my wife the best secluded places to park near her workplace, knowing she was not planning on...

When I had this conversation with my doctor, I took my wife with me. Our situation was a bit different, as my wife also works in health care and my doctor knows my wife and holds her in high esteem. With that said, it helped show there was nothing underhanded going in and we presented a united...

After reading both your threads, there is a lot we have in common. I also live in a small town in a fairly rural county. I also hold a fairly prominent position in the community, even worse, my family is also well known and mostly love local to me. We have had to make choices and we chose to...

What Do Women Want by Daniel Bergner deals with female desire and the death of libido in LTRs. It was the book that started tipping my wife's mind towards non-monogamy. Lack of libido in an otherwise good marriage has been our biggest struggle as a couple. While swinging did nothing for her...

I am pretty new to polyamory myself, so take my input for what it is worth. I was wondering if you have had a discussion with him on what the word friends means to each of you? In the aftermath of our first failure at parallel polyamory, my wife and I figured out we we're talking past each...

NotsoTypical, yes I can identify. When my wife and I first opened up to non-monogamy it was expressly with the idea of threesomes, primarily with another man. I am bi, which was a big part of that fantasy, but the idea of my wife enjoying sex with someone else was a major part as well. We...

While it has been three years since we first started experimenting with non-monogamy, and we have been exposed to the idea of polyamory for even longer, we have only opened to the idea of separate romantic relationships in the last couple of months. My wife has a couple of friends she shares...

Thanks Kevin!

I am finding the Life Stories and Blogs section to be very interesting, but there are so many to choose from. The situation I am in involves the continued process of opening our marriage after over two decades of monogamy. I was wondering if anyone could recommend their own or another member's...

Thank you for the kind greetings. I have lurked as a guest for a little while and I appreciate the time so many members spend sharing their experiences with others. I am looking forward to learning more.