Recent content by NorthCoastLady

Hello. :) Word sure does spread fast. I've been talking about my recent experience with a few of my friends, and lo and behold, I'm getting these propositions- subtle and not so subtle, from various sources. It doesn't bother me that I'm seen as "sexually available". I'm really not, at this...

Hi. Not offended, it's an interesting question. I've thought about that, too. I'm a bit of an introvert, so the thought of filling up my all my down time with people sounds exhausting. There are plenty of evenings when I'm just sitting around with my SO reading and watching TV. Sure, it gets...

"So much for general theory. Now let's get on with discussing your particular situation. It sounds like you had a rough go of poly the first go-around, and need some time to study and learn and re-center yourself before tackling poly again. Then when you do start again, make sure you take it...

Interesting. I just got out of a situation where I was the "lost love from the past". There were other major issues for it's ending, but one of the main ones was my boyfriend's wife and her insecurities. To be fair, though, I can't say I blame her. I'm married, so technically I'm not a...

Thank you for all the thoughtful, articulate replies. :) The more I read and research about poly, the more I realize that I need to do a lot more work on myself before even attempting to dip my toes in. Communication skills, self-awareness, and most importantly, getting a firm grip on my MDD...

Hi. :) I don't know if anybody read through my introductory story/trainwreck of my first poly attempt, but if you didn't, I'm a married woman new to exploring the concept of poly. Concept being the key word here. I just have a few questions that I'm finding difficult to express. So if something...

Lovebunny, thank you for the encouraging words. :) I'm definitely seeing things a bit more clearly now and the bottom line is that I didn't know either of them well enough to trust them. In my opinion, real relationships of any sort aren't built on a few months of Facebook messaging and a few...

Thank you all for your replies. It really does help to hear people's objective opinions. :) I've definitely done some soul-searching on the matter along with some good healthy introspection. I truly do not feel I was intentionally being manipulative. However, I did have a lot of unanswered...

Part two. Thursday the 13th, right before Valentine's Day. I was chatting with his wife and him. I asked them if they were doing anything, etc. They said no. Normal stuff. I had plans to go out to dinner with my husband Friday night. I mentioned to this man that I did want to see him again...

....or, what NOT to do when attempting polyamory. Hello. :) My name"s Merry, and I'm a 42 year old woman, happily married for 9 years, two kids, etc, etc. I have a long, convoluted story to tell and I'd like to offer it up both as a warning to other new people and as a way to "get it all out"...