Thank you all for your input, it was helpfull. We had a sit down conversation and there were tears when she heard how I was feeling but we were able to come to an agreement and for now we are going to put a cool down time between time with her boyfriend and me. We don't make it a permanent thing...
My wife and I have been together for 7 years. She was poly when I met her and she introduced me to the idea. I have had two encounters that didn't go anywhere and since have been pretty much monogamous with her for the last 5 years. She has had a few relationships and currently has a boy freind...