Recent content by Nzlovergirl

Hey guys. Well, I guess I should have heeded the warnings given all those months ago. :( My boyfriend and I have just broken up. I'd love to say that it was over something huge and momentous, something worthy of a broken heart. No, we broke up over the one thing that I knew would be a problem...

No, I'm not pissed off at all. I was just surprised at how vehemently everyone was that there was absolutely no way a person can come to understand and integrate poly ideas into their life. I don't want him to change, and he has said he doesn't want me to do that either. But I know for a fact...

Ok, I've talked to him, and first off, he would like to say: thanks for the support (or lack thereof) as he does not feel that many have actually said: Hey, it can work. To quote him from an email about this: Yes, I do not want to meet him (at this time), or have a relationship with him (at...

I know I posted him a link to one of Mono's writings and he did read it. I feel that perhaps he has blinkers on, to be honest. In terms of disrespect: he does not disrespect my husband. He just does not talk about him. And when I do, he listens and says nothing. He is not pushing me to leave...

He is trying to work through his jealousy on his own. I know that he is in a state of denial over it all. In terms of his knowledge, he refuses to read anything on the topic. I was talking to him last night and he said that it's hard, because normally you have an idea of what to do at certain...

Thank you for your reply, Rarechild. I guess I am really trying to be patient, and help him learn about how I love others and that he is one that has grabbed a piece of my heart.. I am committed to working through it with him and my husband. I'm just lost, as he doesn't understand a lot of...

Ok, so, my husband and I have been in a poly relationship for at least the last two years. He has a wonderful girlfriend. I have recently started seeing a guy. I realised early on that I have very strong feelings for this man, and him for me, and I let him know how I felt. Now to be clear: he...

Ill be 26 in a couple of month :P lol Anyway, I guess for me: ive been with my now husband since I was 17, and we always had a very open and communicative relationship. We were in a serious realtionship from the get go, but thats how i work anyway. I dont do anything by halves! So, a couple of...

Dang i was gonna pop on and recommend Fetlife, then i saw someone else already had lol Yea, i have a profile there too but the gorean lifestyle isnt one ive really interacted with.. Im just an unowned sub right now :) My last Master and I broke up 3 months ago.. *ok, sigh*( i will stop almost...

I know I found it really hard to lean on my husband at the time of my break up, but inevitably I did lean on him. Even though i wasnt overtly asking for his support, I took what support he gave in the little ways and it helped.

I really just wanted to second the "Stay true to yourself" comment, mainly because it's something that's been stuck in my head for the last few days. When my husband brought up the idea of an open relationship a few years ago, I liked the idea. He and I had been swingers for a few years, and...

My hubby and I were in a working quad with another couple for roughly 18 months until I broke up with my boyfriend :( Yes, a very sad few months after that as hubby and his girl worked through it and are continuing to do so, and a happy moment when I introduced a new love into my life. Im now...

aw, thank you all for the warm welcome :)

Hi, im Nzlovergirl, im 25 and I live in New Zealand. I am married to a wonderful man, have been for three years, though we've been together for almost 9. We opened our lives to the idea of polyamory two years ago and he has been in a relationship with his girlfriend for almost all of that. I...

Hi, im Nzlovergirl. Ive been married for three years and my husband and I began to seek polyamorous relationships two years ago. We met a lovely couple and we had a working quad that worked very well for us all. Unfortunately, I broke up with my boyfriend and am now dating outside of that. My...