Recent content by Octovus

Simple enough idea My main thought on how to proceed is this: Can you get what you want, for you, right now out of this relationship? You wrote that you do not want to start into a new monogamous LTR just now. OK. But that does not mean that (this particular configuration of) poly is...

Right On Folks, thanks so much for your words earlier. I would like to share an update. The above quote is on the money! Things have evolved. Garret and I are stronger than ever, and more "together" than ever in our 4+ years. About 1 year in now, it's been amazing to see how poly can draw out...

Titles *THANKS CATT - I now know all 3 words and you beat me to it! -A* Good heavens, never heard these distinctions before. Have to say, I don't like them, either. Not to get all defensive, but "polyamory" sounds pretty general and nice to me. Is there some reason it's not considered...

Similarities Random, thanks for sharing. You've every right to pursue other relationships. Of course, you need to communicate this desire and evaluate Sam's reaction; but I cannot see how, in a healthy relationship (overall), he could refuse. After all, he has his wife! He may have reasons, but...

Hey folks, This is as much stream of consciousness as an advice request. If you have thoughts to share, I am eager to hear them and happy to listen with an open mind. Perhaps I am not cut out, here and now, to be one end of a V. At the moment, I find myself at one end of a 3-male (mid-20s) V...

Tough spot See, I'm in a tough spot on this one. We've NOW established rules (me and the man, 3 years, wearing rings) that we def keep each other in the loop whenever feelings are heading that way, say how we're feeling - not veto but awareness. And that we meet the other person. Yet on this...

My thoughts I know you only wrote a short message, so maybe that's why I have this question. First, I wouldn't assume that any guy you might date would NOT be OK with it (i.e. like NYC there said, looking in the existing poly community may not be the way to find someone). Second, when you...

Hi folks! I've been thinking poly for all of a month now, which I know is not long. Here's how I came into it and my thoughts so far. If any of this matters: mid-20s, out gay male "professional" living in one of Canada's larger cities. My main man and I have always had a SEXUALLY "open"...