Recent content by Olderwoman

wow... you might need a family tree diagram to keep track of those connections. Sounds like a bunch of people just being open about who their friends are and what the nature of their relationship is. I always laugh when I see a television show with a court room and the lawyer asks the witness...

The subject about my not being sure if you were playing a game or being honest about "being offended" only came up a lot later in this conversation. It did not come up in my original post that allegedly offended you so much. As this 'extremely long-running misunderstanding' continues, I have...

NO, I am not calling her a liar. What I said was that I did not believe her. That was my personal reaction, and I did not assume she was lying either. She may certainly have been telling the truth, but I withheld my conclusions regarding that. (To what extent she was offended is still unknown...

I actually responded to that post, but I hit an unknown button on my keyboard and it vanished. I don't think you were "not sorry." I think you were sincere and were expressing compassion for their feelings without assuming fault. You may have been honestly sorry they were offended, but you...

This is your personal conclusion, which is an opinion, not a fact. What one person is offended by may not offend another person. To make the conclusion that the source (me or the statement) is at fault is placing blame on the source (me or my actions) for your personal reactions, i.e., "You...

Originally Posted by Olderwoman So if you were truly offended and were in need of an apology, I am truly sorry that you were offended. No, of course not. It is apologizing without assuming blame. To say "I'm sorry" without really being sorry would clearly be dishonest. (There is a difference...

I think it involves something called "chemistry." NRE is sometimes called "being in love," "infatuated" or "twitter-pated." There's also an expression, "The honeymoon is over." I spend 8 years with a guy, and the NRE was long gone. We broke up and spent some time apart, went our own ways, etc...

Ray, <warning: here is my soapbox philosophy>:p I don't disagree with what you are saying. It is called politeness or common courtesy. It is considered a good habit when you deal with a group of people. It's like asking a person, "How are you?" and they will automatically respond: "Fine!" or...

Yes I know. I went back and re-read it. The one word answer that you are requesting is still no. The better answer is: I will apologize IF I actually feel sorry.

I guess that does not make a lot of sense to me, because my understanding of an apology is the statement, "I'm sorry." If you are NOT sorry, then the statement is not true. I understand this type of apology, "for the sake of the relationship," because that is where I found myself in my last...

That post was a very long yes or no question. If all you want to know is if you understand me correctly, the answer is (apparently and clearly) NO. At the risk of going off on another "passive-aggressive tangent," I will summarize or rephrase my answer below: I do my best to be true to myself...

I was thinking just the opposite. Do you meditate?:D Seriously, how do you think anyone would feel after hearing an apology like that? What kind of response do you think I would get in this case from an apology like that? If it sounds good to you, maybe I will start using it. :D "I'm not...

I am curious though, about how that would go. "I'm not really sorry, but I do sincerely apologize." (?)

The guideline I follow is to be true to myself and others as much as possible and hope for the best. It's not an exact science. :D

I think everyone is poly. They just might not realize it, or they suppress it. :D