Recent content by Orangesmartie

Yes, we instituted date nights for him and I. We were clear about dates as a three,and spending quality time together, and she and I will go shopping together or hang out at home, but he and i rarely do on our own, so we now have scheduled nights to go out and talk and spend time together. It's...

I moved into their house (polyfi triad) but have retained my own house, 200 miles away, both to provide a home for my nephew, of whom i am partial legal guardian, and also to a safety net. I moved in because i was looking for additional work, they suggested i looked in London and lived with...

Tonight I am so angry I am vibrating. All lines of communication shut down for the foreseeable future. I need to think seriously about whether I can continue.

Thanks Bassman, nice to hear from a fellow brit. I've made it home. We're being very British about it and ignoring said situation. On the plus side, with my blood alcohol level, I might get some sleep!

I need somewhere to think, where people don't know me in real life, don't know vanilla me, professional me, kinky me or poly me. Where I can 'thought' vomit without recrimination or censorship. I'm currently sitting at paddington station, drinking extortionately priced wine, too frightened to...

I think it is a necessity to have time alone in each of the relationships of a triad - and I have really only just learned this and to understand what I need in this way. In our closed triad, we never really did the dating thing (friends for 10+ years). And i and either of the other have never...

I’m not sure how to define ‘successful’. Is it time together? Integration/entanglement of lives? My partners and I are in a closed triad and have been for 2 years, (we just had our anniversary). We’ve known each other about 12 years, and I knew them individually, before they got together and...

To be honest, there's no way around the nervousness. It won't ruin your scene. As soon as you get going (so to speak) your nervousness will die back a bit and you'll relax a little.

Presumably if you have been playing they have seen your body? Know what your reactions are like? And they still want to go forward with you - and you with them? The experience gap isn't really a big deal. I'm sure they are aware of your experiences and limits if you have been playing with kink...

I guess by definitions here, I am a unicorn. The way we look at it is that we have a relationship that contains three of us, in which two of us are married. I could talk endlessly around how we make things work, how we deal with things when they don't work, and how we try to match expectations...

I'm sorry but I think you are being a bit naive. Very few of our relationships impact on our ability to do our job. And generally people are very happy to be friendly and nice when they think you are just like them, normal, hetrosexual, mow the lawn on saturdays, sex once a week kinda people...

Apologies for the hijack, but i disagree with this. I live in the UK, with my two partners. We're a triad. All live together. My male partner and I both work in professions where we cannot be open about our situations because it will bring a negative reaction in the workplace and may lead to us...

My partners and I are in the same kind of relationship. They are the married couple. We have now been together 2 years. We've known each other about 12 years now and put a lot of our 'ease' in our relationship down to the fact that we were friends first and had gotten to know each other pretty...

We're a triad. We are all involved with each other. I don't live with either of them. We all like to sleep together. It feels very odd if someone is sleeping elsewhere, when we're apart, or someone has insomnia, etc. In both our houses, we have a standard double bed and a single bed pushed...

I think this is a conversation you need to have before you and he go way for the weekend, otherwise you may find yourself in very difficult circumstances. Breaking her trust on this break will set back the relationship by many months. Perhaps it would be best if you sat down to discuss it, as...