Recent content by Papillon

I'm genuinely curious here - what does 'polyamorous' mean to you? Because (as others have already said) by most people's definition, polygamy is a type of polyamory, which would mean you ARE currently in a polyamorous relationship... I'm not trying to tell you what to call your relationship -...

Of course you don't - none of us do - but what will happen on this forum is that people will ask you probing questions in order to get a better understanding of your situation. Everyone tends to get a lot of questions when they first show up here!

I haven't seen it myself...and I don't think I will after reading the review!

You seem to jump between extremes in your thinking - you've gone from being really keen to do this right now to saying you're a horrible person for even thinking about it in just a few hours! You're not a horrible person for being interested in this stuff, or for thinking it might be a good...

A poly friend shared this on Facebook: Savages: not the kind of poly representation we need Thought folks here might find it interesting.

To clarify, I don't have any objection to the term when other people use it to describe themselves. I just don't feel it describes me accurately. It appears to mean basically straight but with a willingness to experiment a bit on a purely sexual level...and even if I don't feel 'fully' bi, I...

Edit to add (because wow this post ended up hugely long!) tldr - I'm never sure how to ID myself personally, I don't feel fully straight or bisexual. I think everything is on a sliding scale and labels should only be applied to oneself, not to others. *** I actually have quite a lot of trouble...

Beg to differ! :p I've always loved Stargate (SG1 & Atlantis) but I also loved SGU. I agree that it's a very different animal, but life would be boring if everything was the same! There were still bits of plot/situations that made it fit with the more usual Stargate vibe, but the desperate...

Me too! I'm actually the only person in my current poly configuration who doesn't have a diagnosed mental illness. My husband is bipolar, his girlfriend has depression, and my boyfriend has depression & anxiety. My opinion? It's tough but it depends on the severity of the condition and how the...

I would say talk to them both (together if possible) about what time they want/need and how to schedule things in the best way possible. You say that you sometimes feel bad about how things work currently, but do you know for sure that your primary partner is bothered by it? Talk to him! Then...

Lots of people are married and poly (I am one). Was she poly too, and is she giving up other relationships, or was she always monogamous to you? Does she know and/or like your other loves? I agree with the others who said that giving up something you don't really want to give up is not a great...

So now we come to the past two years and our experiences with poly relationships, which is after all why I'm here in the first place :rolleyes: We laid out a few ground rules/boundaries which I think should seem pretty familiar to many people here; complete honesty with all parties involved...

Hunter and I met and started seeing each other within two weeks of me starting university. Yeah, I know, pretty speedy! We sort of met in a nightclub, then again properly at a social event later the same week. He asked me out, and things developed from there. Hunter is seven years older than me...

Yeah, it's not been easy... The 'she left him' statement above is actually a bit of a simplification - it was her that made the decision to end it but they both played a part. I'll probably go into more detail in my blog when I get to that point of the story.

Backstory time I think... My personal history doesn't involve many serious relationships, but does include a reasonable range of experiences that some 'normal' people (do they even exist?) might find a little unusual :rolleyes: Sometimes I think of myself as lacking in experience, and sometimes...