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Triage (Pun Intended) He said we were polyfidelitous after I joined the family. He had good reasons (disease, too complicated with more people, we'd find someone appropriate when we move, etc.) and I'm new to poly so I don't know, but it certainly feels like he gets 3 women and I'm restricted...

I am in a primary relationship with a poly male. He has recently expanded it from 2 straight monogamous females to 3 straight monogamous females and him, including me as one of the straight monogamous females. We are all supposed to move to the coast and live in close quarters with each other...

Wow! I'm blown away by the thoughtful intelligent advice thanks! I do think I need to decide what to do before I go. I have adult children, a thriving career, and lots of friends here, and need to be sure before I go. Sounds like lots of talks are in order, and lots of soul-searching...

Need group permission before having sex outside the group, and that's obtained by "come have pizza with us and get to know us." Then no sex with group until that relationship is over and the incubation period has passed, unless that person agrees to join the group and the group agrees to accept...

We are all financially independent, and costs are split equally. My BF, who is bi, is definitely the leader although often we don't mind. However, the rules in this polyfidelitous group are: if you have an outside partner, you practice safe sex and stop having sex within the group until the...

yes. It's fun and entertaining but nothing I would do if he weren't there. He's the catalyst. They would say the same.

I'm brand new to this so I'm sure this is a normal problem. One man, three women, I'm the third woman. It is a polyfidelitous group. All we women are straight and in love with the one man, although we'll all be together sometimes for his sake. And we are all going to be moving together...

I need to tell my 30 y/o daughter about being poly and I don't know the best way to do it. She's still adjusting to my divorcing her father 2 years ago and her own divorce, and the break-up of our family as her stepsister, who were raised with her, no longer speaks to me. We live in the...

Shipwrecked I really enjoyed your post; a very thoughtful look at the potential downsides of polyamory. So much of what I've read about it is written by poly practitioners/advocates. It's like trying to find out how good a make of car is by talking to the car salesman. As an old person, I...

Conference I was assuming he was talking about the International conference in Berkeley in the next few weeks on non-monogamous relationships. I stumbled on this looking for literature on poly. Sounds like they are going to present research and try to promote research on alternate models to...

Questions Here's my "newbie" status showing: what are polycules? And what does it mean (another thread I read) when they talk about veto power? And what is the standard definition of poly-fidelitous? Also, my family is older, and I wonder what percentage of polys fall in what age brackets...

Hi to East Bay So wanted to go to that conference, but was too late to get CEU's and didn't want to spend the money without them. Please post what you think of the conference, and any other relevant ones coming there. My family is seriously considering moving to N.Calif. this fall and I need...

I'm so new to polyamory I'm not sure how to describe my family. I've lived for almost a year with the man I love and his female partner of 15 years, whom I also love as a person. There is another woman who lives elsewhere who's been involved with them for several years. I was married...