Recent content by Periwinkle

Ah yes I probably caused some confusion. My boyfriend is A and his love interest is S. A is demisexual and as for S, I don't know. A has told me that the sexual aspect of a relationship is the least important to him, but the possibility of a sexual relationship between the two of them is really...

Thank you all so much. The guy he's thinking of seeing is perfectly nice, really, he's just much better friends with my boyfriend then he is with me. I don't doubt my boyfriend's estimation of him, I'm just afraid that if it turns out we can't really be friends, it will strain the relationship...

I guess it was from a not-so-good poly resource. I can't tell which are good and which are not-so-good, so I've just read everything. Xeromag was a great help, though, and I should have started with that. The resource I'm thinking of I recall repeating over and over that no relationship is...

I’m on the verge of telling my poly boyfriend that I’m cool with him pursuing other partners. But I haven’t done it. Something’s holding me back and I don’t know what. I’ve looked at so many resources, more than I can count, but I still feel so unsure. I feel like unless there’s some resource I...

I apologize, AutumnalTone. I can get defensive but that's not an excuse.

Oh, shucks. I think you're wonderful, too.

I'm actually totally fine with being sex-repulsed; it's not something that upsets me and I don't see it as having a negative impact on my life. It upsets me a bit the importance placed on the fact that I could change. I've sort of heard it all my life: "You'll start liking it when you're older!"...

I'm actually working on being more open with people, so thank you. Of course there are all kinds of touch. That's a very good point. I imagine that in asexual relationships, there is just as broad an array of the types of touch, with the only distinction that there isn't sexual touch, or to the...

There are all of four forums on the asexual tag. One thread is really surprising: "Is it possible to be emotionally poly?" It seems baffling to me that this would be . . . baffling. I always thought of non-physical love as just as intense as physical love, and personally preferable. So...

I actually first heard about poly through a trans* person. I would say that a woman, whether trans or cis, non-op, pre-op, or post-op, is whoever she says she is. It's not up to others who you are, just yourself. And I'm very happy to see such acceptance in the poly community.

Ah, I see. Yeah, when I first learned more and started to ID as ace, I figured I would want my partner to have another partner for that purpose. I thought I'd never meet another ace person at that point, though. Eh, we'll see what happens. Thank you!

True. However rare it is, it's pretty big in my own life. My boyfriend and I are both on the ace spectrum. He's always identified as poly, and I'm working on it now. And I've found that even when something is rare, when you stumble upon a community, there are plenty of people to talk to. I mean...

River, woo, your response seriously made me dance around in my seat! I was a bit nervous about being accepted, but I'm not so much anymore. The first time I heard about polyamory, I actually thought it was perfect for asexual people (those who want to pursue it, of course). I'm glad that there...

I realize this thread's a bit old, but I'm asexual, and I identify as homoromantic, meaning I'm not sexually attracted to anyone, but I'm romantically attracted to people of my own gender. In learning about polyamory, I've been desperate to find sources that address both polyamory and...

Ah, I see. I'm new so I'm a little confused--if you live apart, do you have to be secondary?