Recent content by PhoenixStGeorge

I suffer from sometimes mentally disruptive insecurities, too. I am most confident at work and at sex parties, two places where I know I do a very "good job", as it were. But I require a lot of support from my partners, which often feels like too much to ask, and in fairness, I think is. (I...

I don't think I have to be, but I do want to be. I want to feel fewer negative feelings about this. I want my husband to have something he's always had that is important to him. I want to give him this. Hmmm. Well, I see their efforts to be restrained and communicative to be amends for being...

Hi Kevin, Thanks for your thoughts.... I wonder if you would elaborate on the idea of separating myself from triggers? I am a week or so into a month of radio silence I requested from both my husband and my girlfriend on any significant conversation about Mango. Our girlfriend had been...

Hi - I'm open (haha) to communicating with anyone on this forum, so, by all means, leave me a message!

uhYup. Thanks, that's kind of you to do :) Yes also, to the part in blue, about what I stopped sharing -- all things sexual. And I requested (of both of them) to not be the involuntary object of their fantasies/flirtations/sext.

It’s been a while since I’ve been on here. I joined back in January/February when my now-nearly-nine-month-long triadic relationship was new and I had never considered myself polyamorous (just playfully open minded, *wink *wink, perhaps generally non-monogamous). I was enjoying what was...

Lots of thoughts but typing with thumbs and not wishing to be redundant on a number of agreements (esp on the need to define words thoroughly)-- In response to the original questions, and in the context of the rest of this thread, I propose/wonder.... Isn't romantic love the difference between...

Fair.., however, my post wasn't really about whether he's a cowboy, it's about whether he's a fair playmate who might allow for this to turn into a fun experiment, or whether this dom guy is truly toxic and unable to treat Inthedark and their marriage with respect, regardless of the dom/sub context.

Oh, and as you're in chat with him now, a question for you-- how do you feel about submitting? (I'm a little concerned for the kids, but setting them aside for now, hoping they are being shielded and protected from all this.) I ask because you seem so intent on saving your marriage, and very...

Wow, this all sounds so hard. FWIW, I think you're doing everything right. As right as a husband can be, anyway. You're still human. To explain the source of my perspective, and a story, in case it helps: I'm my husband's second wife. Once upon a time, I, and many others, looked up to his...

Update 2 I really appreciate everyone's response. Steve, thank you so much for your words about your experience being the confidant, as well as intimate social spheres - *really* helpful words to read. To those who seem concerned that there is dangerously flawed communication happening...

Got it, thanks!! (For now the blog is not what I want, not to simply vent but to discuss, but now I understand!)

Then I need to figure out the differences between the forums you're talking about. I don't have a blog, so I don't think I have a blog thread, but that probably makes little sense, showcasing how novice I am at Internet communities.

Thanks/update Funny, both my loves want me to feel free to say anything about either of them to either one. My GF is amazing - she says she hears about how I feel when I talk about him, not complaints about him. Either a testament to her, or that I am actually respecting my husband in the...

The situ is an established marriage, an unusually strong and well formed relationship, without a lot of the drama that goes along with complex situations, but still susceptible to human imperfections and the conflict that can come with that. We've been non monogamous in small and big ways for a...