Recent content by PinkDragon

Mistake I've made a decision, faced a fact, come to a realization. For me the whole poly thing is a huge mistake. I regret that Lovely got hurt in the process. Truly I do, I wish there was a way to fix that, but there isn't. I really have to give kudos to those of you who make this work...

Oh well, live and learn Our triad is no more. I have completely removed my okcupid ad and I'm not sure that I will ever do this again. At least not the triad thing. In some ways I feel like that what I've learned is that I have neither the time nor energy to devote to more than one romantic...

Thanks, Annabel :) That's the focus of everything right now. Because it makes her feel safe, she's sleeping in the bed with us, between us. Though she doesn't want Bear to touch her sexually, she does know that he /will/ protect her and just being beside him is helping. Because I didn't know...

Things have been crazy Sorry, I haven't been posting. Things got hectic, crazy, insane... I didn't have time to sit down and write. A lot has happened. The relationship with Lovely has been progressing nicely. She doesn't know that I have flipped and flopped and waffled about the whole poly...

I think it's about the insecurity of the person that has an issue with it. Bear and I routinely check out other people. He checks out just women, I check out women and men. Neither of us feels threatened. :::shrug:::

It seems to me that the priorities at home need to be straightened out before other partners are added. And yes, you guys most certainly need to schedule regular dates!

I'm new to this whole thing and in a closed triad. The one thing the three of us do all the time is talk, talk, talk. There are some things coming up that we are going to have to talk about. For instance, Lovely and her daughter are going to live with us for a while because she is relocating to...

Ahhhh, well, thank God! (or deity of your choice). I wanted to reach through the computer and strangle someone! LOL

The first thing that stands out to me is that if your relationship is so unstable that you fear she might leave you for someone else, then the last thing you need to do is try a poly relationship. Poly will not fix anything. My advice would be to work on communication and building trust in your...

Btw, I'm a church pianist and Bear is an ordained minister.

I'd like to have this conversation out here in the open instead of via pm and email. I think it's a subject that really needs to be explored, as there are probably a lot of Christians that practice polyamory. And polygamy is starting to have some acceptance in mainstream society. It's only a...

Hey cool! I'm glad this thread got bumped! Recently a very good friend of mine and Bear's accused us of having an adulterous relationship. Nice. Real nice. You can read about it over in Rhinestone Ramblings in PolyBlogs. :)

Get your own place, move out, and continue your relationship with just him.

Have you ever heard the expression, "You can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink."? Love is the same way. You cannot force someone to love you. Love cannot be compelled. I'm afraid I agree with the others... it seems that you're bordering on being a stalker, and you need...

Oh, no, that came across wrong. I was a little worried when I made that post so I wasn't as clear as I should have been.