Recent content by pollyanna

I really think she should have her 'own' days and celebrations, not be drug along on our coattails.

Wondering what happened to her...

why do they live with her parents? time for them to grow up and move out and then they can do as they please without explaining to anyone. Do you have your own place in that town? And if he's grown, why does he have to explain where he is to her parents?

i think it's ok and normal that you feel left out and that it seems unfair a bit. And i think it's ok to want a 'date' to an event--things are more fun when you share them with someone special. How many situations come up that only two of you could go to? for us, it's few. My 3rd would be a...

i am sorry you are hurting.

i think a good barometer (for me anyway) is asking myself 'how would i feel if the shoe was on the other foot?' If i'd (honestly) be ok with MY asking for a weekend away alone with one of our partners, then i'd have to be ok with them asking for it. If I would resent dh spending 6 nites out...

I was so amazed a couple of years ago when we were at a Roy Rogers in Joisey, and the guy in front of us turned around and kindly said "y\Youse guys can go ahead." I really only thought that was movie talk, not real dialect! And, sorry, but I don't pahk my cah eitha. But I do love a Fenway...

LR, I agree. I hate myself for not overstepping boundaries and being more forceful. Our friend kept most of this to herself. I knew about the financial abuse and the restrictions, but she didn't tell me just how sick she was. She was a very introverted and private person, secretive. She didn't...

I don't remember who brought it up in this thread, but I think a lot of women think about it. Statistically we live longer than y'all. But in this particular case, he will probably outlive her. A 20-year age gap is huge.

well, i think that if he took her to another country and promised to take care of her, then he is obligated to do so but not at the expense of his first family. I assume he knew of her disabilities and issues and asked her to move to him anyway. In our triad, my dh still works, i am retired...

I think El is right. The girl is immature and not ready to settle down at any time. The insane jealousy should be a red flag as well as the sneaking and lying. Time to let this one go, honey.

And I really think you need to give his wife credit for even allowing your man to bring his mistress into her home. I know my dh's former would have never stood for that, and we didn't even try. Polyamory has to be agreed upon by all partners before the relationships start. It wasn't in our...

As I posted before, I sort of did what you are doing, although I stayed in the US. It's a hellacious nightmare at worst, and extremely stressful at best. I think you are very fortunate to have found a 'sister wife' who is so welcoming and, according to you, willing to make many concessions to...

Oh, you're right. I'm sorry. Her mistress demanded the slave submit to her in all ways, socially, physically and financially, even though the slave had children of her own to take care of. The slave was just a regular working woman. She did clerical work and struggled to make ends meet. The...

for us, the most important thing is that we feel solid as a couple before we consider a third. If we're at all wobbly, we work on us and our communication. we also steer clear of other women as my dh feels he might not be 'safe' with other women. He has a propensity to confuse sex with love...