Recent content by polyconundrum

Yeah, that basically sounds like it. Is there anything else? Yes. I've lost sight of what I want out of being poly, which is variety of lovers and people to date and community. I need to reconnect to this. I'm starting to go on dates, too. I am having more get togethers with friends, poly or...

Yup, that's exactly what happens to me. It's a big battle between what I've been socialized to think and what I think now. And yes, some of it was things he had done recently, and a lot of it was societal upbringing kicking and screaming inside of me. I definitely know what you mean here. But...

Absolutely. Yes, I think that might be something, too. The thing is, though, he doesn't see himself having a primary partner. And I think I could see that. Or... I have thought about poly-fidelity as opposed to just having a bunch of relationships that are on the "same" level, which is what...

Sorry, but what do you mean by this? :)

No, I guess I probably don't, something I'm realizing a lot lately. I am burning the candle at both ends these days, and haven't had any "me" time, which has not been good. I'm stressed and tired, and while I'm doing healthy things like getting enough sleep and exercising, I'm feeling pretty run...

Thanks all :D

You know, it's interesting. I actually don't want to live with someone right now. I like living alone. But I'd like to know that there's a possibility of it with someone. My partner says he doesn't think he could ever live with someone he's in a relationship with. He says it would be cool to...

Thanks. I know that it's ok to be monogamous. I'm not one of those people who slams it, at all. ;) What I have to lose by seeking a mono relationship is the option to see more than one person. I like having that option for myself, but apparently when the other person gets to see other people, I...

I'm really confused because I know that in the past, I haven't been satisfied with just one person. I often felt stifled and would be attracted to other people but couldn't act on it because I was in monogamous relationships. And that was always something that attracted me to poly - being able...

Thanks for your input. I feel like I shouldn't have to use a relationship or want a relationship just to feel better about myself. I was single for 2 years and really happy with it. I'm actually very happy with myself. It's a lot of external stuff that I'm not happy with, work being one, and...

I realize I'm the only one who can really answer that question. But there's a lot going on in my head and I can't keep it all straight, so maybe you can help me unravel it. I don't know where to start... I never thought I was a jealous person. When I was in monogamous relationships, I would...

Thank you, you as well.

Hi everyone, Just signed up a couple minutes ago. There's a pretty organized poly community here where I live, and I'm finding I need to branch out a bit to get advice, spew my thoughts, rant, and have a few laughs, because the community here is getting a bit too small and tight for me. There...