Recent content by PolyCouple2013

Yes! Scraps!! That is the perfect word to describe what I felt was going on. For awhile I thought of the word "replaced" but that never sit well with me as M did say she loved me (but I see now her actions did not match the words). Before C was brought in, M and myself never had any problems...

I'm not an expert in the world of infinite love, but, it sounds like you also have a bit of New Relationship Energy (NRE) going on that I know from experience only makes things more difficult for yourself when you are the only partner who is long distance. While they are having their planned...

Here is an update on things: M and I have chosen to go separate ways due to the situation M is in, be it from life choices or hers. We still care for each other but see it cannot work out. We have parted as friends and I wish M and C the best in life. I hope this thread helps others who...

We are discussing these things and I will try to share some of the "imbalances" here as I hope M does as well. I think you are right as both are probably playing a factor (LDR more from my perspective) in the problems M, C, and I face right now. However everyone has made many so many valid...

Those were just a few of the specific behaviors I noticed that worried and hurt me during the course of the relationship since C. There have been others but I thought those would be the best to share with the forum to help explain what has been happening. Yes. However this thread I think has...

Actually when it was just L, M, and me none of us knew how poly would work out and we were all going very slow. L and I even took steps to help ensure M had an out if she changed her mind etc. I don't have that here sadly. I have no problems with C directly or with her being with C. My issues...

You have posted a lot of great points and advice to think about (everyone so far has, and thank you). However can you please elaborate on this part of your post? I am not sure if I am not reading it correctly or what not but I am not following what you mean here.

She says she does and she used to tell me "You'll never be a secondary" but things change apparently :( As for her response to the discrepancies, they have varied from "I didn't mean it.", "I'm trying", and "I'm sorry". I wish there was more to give on that. This is what I fear on both...

I feel I need to further clarify a few points so I can receive the best advices from this... First I never said anything about sex being an issue. Rather the "equal" was my noticing that there was a lack of global fairness. I know local fairness cannot be done but global fairness is something...

I am in a LDR relationship that is complicated but there seem to be glaring issues and concerns about the way things are going and I am not sure as what is the best course of action. I met this woman (M) who was going to be in a relationship with myself and my ex (L) but things did not work out...

Typo, I have been in a LDR previously that became a normal relationship for over 4 years after the LDR environment ended. Basically first Poly LDR but not first LDR if that makes any sense. As for the trip times, that was just to show how someone might be in a LDR that the other person is only...

Thank you for all the replies and advice on this thus far. This is all still very new for everyone in our relationship and for me especially as I will be moving to start my new life in my new relationship with my couple.

It doesn't bother me that she brought someone in. I am just thankful she found such a great person to bring in that seems to have several similar interests in common, not to mention a great taste in women (acceptable joke hopefully?). I am confident that he and I can become great friends. Not...

Yeah, we all had a long talk the other night about the situation. Yes they were more... progressed? (not sure if that is the best word to describe it) in their relationship than with hers and mine. They wanted to do something to make me feel included in that level of intimacy that they share...

That is what we are all hoping is just the absence of the little things that LDR makes impossible combined with hopefully is just envy. When we were all together, things like them cuddling or non-deep kissing did not bother me but rather made me happy (because I was seeing the person I love...