Recent content by PolyInFL

Oh sweetie, you are not alone. From what you have said it sounds like your husband has some major control issues that manifest whenever the situation doesn't go as he would like. Saying those things to you is not loving. It is transparent manipulation on several levels. He wants to control your...

I am having surgery in a few months. It will have a profound effect (at least I hope so) on my physical appearance even though that is not the primary reason for having it. Okay, I see I cannot start this in the middle. It requires some background. Due to a difficult pregnancy and birth, I...

I do think that the timing has contributed to Jane's idea of our non-monogamy as a result of lack of sex. She and I had another chat and cleared up some confusion. There is a lot about polyamory that she still doesn't understand, but she is very open-minded and non-judgmental. I also gather that...

First, NO need to apologize. If I sounded offended - I was not. Just the inherent flaws of communicating with strangers through typed words only, I guess. It is easy get the wrong impression. Having said that, please don't overreact to this next statement either. I would be VERY careful...

Recently, I have been doing a lot of soul searching and self-reflection on my sexual identity. I identified as a polyamorous bisexual several years ago. Since I have not actually had sex with a woman yet, some would say I can only call myself "bi-curious" which I find kind of funny. Do virgins...

Wow. Okay, let me take these one at at time, with the easier one first. (#2). I guess I didn't really make it clear before, but I am in fact being treated for my eating disorder. It has been something I have battled for (wow) 20 years now and I'm sure it will always be there. Fortunately I have...

...that it isn't about spicing up our sex life! I just had a frustrating conversation with a friend who knows (recently) that DH and I are poly. A little background - neither DH and I are currently involved with anyone else. It went like this, over coffee: I was venting about the fact that we...

First, thanks for all of the supportive comments. I feel like I have been a little whiny, but thanks for not pointing that out! I am trying to show myself some compassion on this issue instead of my typical "suck it up Mandie" attitude. I am so tired of feeling bad for having needs. I realized...

So, I'm sure some or all of you have experienced this same thing. You meet someone you wish was open to poly but get the impression (or if you are brave enough to directly discuss with them, a confirmed no) that they are not. I suppose it is kind of like falling for someone of a different sexual...

So I fess up to my DH "Honey, I miss sex" and the product of that conversation is basically that because he is working so much, fighting depression and stressed out all the time, he really isn't ever in the mood. I am to understand (says he) that it has nothing to do with me and not that he does...

Right Now? Sahara Would like it to be? Sea of Love

A few movies for poly people that I highly recommend are: The Big Chill - This film really hits home for me - love without boundaries. It is not always pretty and it sure isn't easy. But the sacrifices made for one another by the friends (and I see them more like a family) is amazing and...

It took years of dating, dysfunctional relationships and one failed marriage for me to finally find my husband. We have had some tough times, almost split up twice, but we stuck it out and we are SOOOO glad we did because we are very much in love and best friends besides. I would like us to find...

My eating disorder manifested itself the same year I became sexually active. Of course, I did not realize it was an eating disorder then. I knew what anorexia and bulimia are, but did not know those are just a few kinds of the ED that happen. Only a few years ago did I actually recognize it for...

My DH thinks I am a complete freak because I have a thing for Jeff Goldblum. Laugh if you will, I do not care. He can have me anytime, anywhere.