Recent content by Polylogical

Hey, so I haven't read all the comment and may be repeating what has already been said... I think going poly or open relationship when your marriage is on shakey ground is a terrible idea. You need a solid foundation of trust and love to do that. I don't think it is beyond reason to ask your...

I think there is something to this. I had a gf once who I really liked, who I found out had had sex with a friend of mine before our relationship. This made me insanely jealous. She hadn't been in a relationship with him or anything, they just had a number of one-night stands. In my mentality of...

Gunnar, From reading through all this I get the impression that this is a pattern your wife follows to some extent - 5 yearish relationship then move on. It's a pattern of addiction to the feeling a new relatioship brings out. I knew a girl like this once. When I was her "new relationship" it...

@Emm Yeah, basically she is saying I can still do It, but she doesn't want to know anything about it. But I do t see how this would ever work. I'm also not really comfortable being secretive about things... @Tinwen So yeah it's that she had these insecurities this one time and wanted everything...

So my wife is back from her trip. She doesn't want to talk about anything, just said she's going to ignore it, and doesn't want to hear it from me.... It's weird for me because we had always talked about it before. And I'm not super comfortable with keeping things secret as it were. Anyone in a...

Yup, I hear you. It makes sense. I'm not entirely sure what to do atm. I feel like I've been slapped in the face but can't get mad about it because it'll make her feel too bad about doing it... hence me venting here... It's weird but I feel like, while we had the open relationship status, I...

Hi Lunabunny, That's a really good point, "I just wasn't thinking", doesn't hold up when it happens repeatedly. And it did. Hmmm, I don't really know what to say about that... it's kind of heart breaking... And you're right, I haven't really lived poly... there were a few other incidents in...

Hi KC43, Thanks for your insights, you really nailed some things. You are absolutely right, when she says things like "I'm horrible", etc.. I do switch way from conflict to comfort... and the issue never gets resolved... and like you said, it keeps simmering until I can't handle it. Then it...

So, one of the issues I have is that it's really hard to have discussions about this stuff with her, or ask her why she did those things. She pretty much closes up right away and gets depressed. She then starts saying thing like, "I'm a horrible person, I hate myself, you deserve someone better...

Ok... So my wife and I talked about having an open relationship for a while, we had read Sex at Dawn and it all made a lot of sense to us. But we didn't really make it official. We live in a place where there isn't much opprotunity to pursue other relationships, so it didn't really happen. And...