Recent content by Polyluke

Hi Arc, Happy Holidays! In terms of nights - a couple are taken up by kid activities and then it’s important to also have some ‘me’ time to recharge. In reality that leaves 1, sometimes 2 nights /evenings a week for my other partner. That’s how it works at least for now. And as we’re all open...

Think you’ve got some really good advice already. i could only add a few comments: try and find out what level of sharing you’re comfortable with. This comes down to consent and what you’re OK with. She needs to respect this (and vice versa). That does lead to a load of taking up front - “I...

Hi Arc, Your story is .... well very similar to where I’m at / have been at. You have a lot of super helpful people supporting here so I thought I share a possibly similar story you may be able to pull some similarities to. We’ve together for 15+ years, family with kids, wife comes out as poly...

There’s a good question..... I very much feel it’s a one way journey with mood and feelings going up and down, yet I increasingly am also waiting for a fall while trying to ensure that the track goes on and goes back up eventually (metaphorically speaking).... But definitely loads of low points...

Thanks al, useful content and will check it out. Lots of food for thought. One thing is for sure, things will take some time to work through

That sucks for him - I’m hoping things aren’t like this for us, time will tell I guess. How is he doing these days? And how has he made sense of it all?

Congratulations! Must feel pretty amazing to have gone through all that and arrived at a stage where all invoked are happier people - in themselves, their life’s and partners!

Not much more i can do apart from making my feelings known. I can’t go to her and break the news, that would be an utter disaster all round, all needs to be him. But I’m not sure he actually is poly. Think he’s together with his wife for the kids and long stopped loving her (I suspect he’s mono)...

Firstly, thank you so much for sharing this. I’m totally in that boat at the moment. My wife E has been poly for 5-6 months now, I’m not looking anywhere at the moment but she’s really struggling with the jealousy and feelings. She’s also mentioned that’s it’s hypocritical and illogical .... so...

Just wanted to say, love your post (thanks for responding to me the other day) really insightful and surprising how similar your introduction was to mine (apart from the book part, I hadn’t read that but previously looked at various relationship models.... ) Just wanted to say thanks 😊

Thank you so much for the continued responses - great to read. Forgive me for not quoting but it’s hard quoting and editing on my phone 😂. To answer Mags question - yes, they’re romantically involved (sex), and have been ever since she’s had the consent for it. And yes it’s in our house - it’s...

Definitely! It feels like as soon as you talk about things they’ve moved - and I think it’s true that there’s a huge difference between “what if” scenarios and actually things happening. He lives in the same town and they meet regularly (sexually and non sexually) - times and length they’re...

Sorry I made that reference, she didn’t without going into details I know the two things are different, one has a person, one has feelings, the other doesn’t, however for me and given our shared positive history and journey in life it’s a fair analogy and something I was and am ok with. At the...

Hiya, thanks for your replies within the limited space, probably wasn't as clear as I could have been ;) She wasn't - when I say she was on the journey, I refer to an emotional journey not a physical one. Before anything physical happened we cleared things I was aware and knew about it -...

Hi everyone, Been here a while, reading posts and thought to say hello officially. I’m M - 33 happily married for > 10 years w kids. UK midlands based. My wife has been on the poly journey for a couple of years now (although I hadn’t realised for some time) and to be fair she’s been pretty...