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I'm in a mono/poly relationship which I'm struggling with. I'm the mono. When I started reading about poly I rapidly understood that poly was just a word and that everyone applies it in the way it works best for them. I'm realizing now that I might be involved with someone who is what you refer...

Thanks for your input, all of you. It really helps me to sort out my mind and my heart. Lately I've been feeling some changes inside myself towards the situation. Is it temporary or am I making some kind of progress? Only the future will tell. By contributing here you're all part of the shift...

I'm not too sure what you mean. Are you saying that I should hold back and go on, or am I misinterpreting your words? Can you elaborate this too, please?

Thanks, NYCindie!

Is it a need, a want, something related to a certain lifestyle and education? These are the questions that arise in me. Is it hard to grasp for me because I was educated that way and because I have certain expectations of what I want out of life? Or could it be something that you just are, no...

So true! Currently, I'm not the best person to be around, as my thoughts and attention go to her, while I know she is seeing other people. I know I won't see her again for a long time. It's like I don't know what to do with myself. I guess I have to accept the facts for what they are. She is...

I didn't ask her to become mono. I don't believe in changing people. About the boundaries, you are right, they were pretty open and subject to interpretation. Also, these agreements were made when we were alone together on our trip. Now that we are far from each other and she is moving on with...

Why do you think that, sage? I know there is probably a process I have to go through. It has probably already started. Do you mean that it is too early? My girlfriend wasn't polyamorous before, and for her the transition was quite easy.

Hi, BlackUnicorn. Thanks for your reply. NRE = new relationship energy, right? I guess so, yes. The relation is somewhat new, a bit more than half a year. Indeed, right now, we are far away from each other. I don't really understand what you mean with part of the difficulty related to new...

Hi All, I'm in my early thirties. I'm dating a woman, 29, who is polyamorous. We've been together for a bit longer than 6 months. Early in the relationship, during our 3rd date, she told me she was inclined to polyamory. At that time she'd been seeing another guy for some time already. As our...

Hello, I'm sort of new to it, and have lots of questions. Hi All, I'm in my early 30's and am currently dating a polyamorous girl. In that relationship I'm facing some problems as I'm coming from a non poly-amorous background. See my thread in the "new to polyamory" forum I hope that through...