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??? This isn't about meat - (which we all enjoy). But to continue along these lines... if meat is polyamory my husband does not believe in it, no way, no how. I do. We love each other. We have to figure this out.

I have swung from regretting that I ever even let my private thoughts out into the world (by telling both men that I loved both of them) to wishing I'd moved at a slower pace, glacial perhaps (even though it would have meant pretending I didn't feel what I felt), to thinking maybe this might...

Right now, I'm realizing that the man I want as a lover (we really aren't yet), may never be, and I feel such utter sadness. I will keep talking with my husband, because there's nothing else to do but talk. Has anyone been in this place, where they've brought up the possibility, had that door...

It did not go well. Has anybody else started from a place where their partner/spouse/whatever went from "NO WAY" to understanding and trying this? We talked a little (time constraints) and we'll talk again tonight. I don't think my husband even came here. In fact, he read the link with the word...

Right now, I am on pins and needles waiting for a chance to talk with my husband. He's read the email. He is upset. But he has a meeting right now. He works at home. I have no clue how this day is gonna go down.

Well, I went ahead and sent emails to both of them this morning, inviting them to come here. I'm very nervous. I can tell by all the typos I've had to fix. I don't know if they will. I don't know how this day is going to go.

Well, I think I will probably take the plunge and invite them to read here and post if they wish to. I have no idea how it will go. There's a part of me that is really scared, that wishes all this would just go away. Life would be so much easier. But it won't. My feelings are what they are and...

As someone new to this forum and also in the beginning (oh please hope hope hope) of a poly relationship - I would find it very beneficial to be able to "talk" with someone with some prior knowledge of how this works (beginning and maintaining a poly relationship).

Thanks for posting that - it was quite timely. Now to get up the nerve to send it to my husband.

Yeah, I know. I want an honest base, and I feel like I have one with my lover. But my husband and I have so many years of... not dishonesty, but putting off unpleasantness, that it's hard and scary. But I'm working in that direction. I may post one of my fears on another thread somewhere. I...

This is one of the reasons FOR inviting my husband, in my mind. I'm sure he's never had a conversation about even the concept of poly, much less as a part of his own life, with anyone but me. And he had a kneejerk reaction-- "I've never been interested in that." Many people I know would think I...

If I ask my husband and lover to join me here, what has been people's experience with that? Has it been a good thing? So-so? Not good? I just joined this week and it was suggested that I have my husband come and read here. I am contemplating it, but I have some concerns besides the one I...

I read this story too. I wonder if this guy ever questions himself. Hmmm. What I really wanted to comment on was that wonderful comparison list. I am in the place of wanting to grow into a love that has been long-standing (if unrealized) with an old friend, while maintaining the love I have for...

Thanks. I'll check it out. I'm feeling very vulnerable right now. Wondering if it's worth the risk, especially considering my new/old love seems confused at times about how he feels about me. Oh my.

I'm a writer - lots of poetry (yes, published) and stories and a couple of books never finished or barely started. I'm currently doing the NaNoWriMo and working out some of my current issues that way. I've done some metalworking in the past (jewelry) but it's an expensive hobby. I hope to get...