Recent content by polytriad

Bow To the Queen (Chess) You are a great queen. You always have good insight.

Without reading, my apologies, all replies, I'd have to just say bottom line is control is not yours over others! Only you telling how you feel and being ok with your partner/husband/gf/bf/just friend, considering your feelings at their discretion. If signs are being shown that make you feel one...

I stand by this one!!!! http://www.polychromatic.com/pfp/main.php?region%5B%5D=CA+-+Rohnert+Park+us Here is someone you can call... Not from where you are but...far away and over the phone might help your own sikee ...I TRUST THIS PERSON!!! as in WE my FAMILY All have SEEN or TALKED to THIS...

I'm going to put two fulls together with a create-a-king kit. I'll let you know how that goes. Thanks for the idea.

ha ha This is funny. Overrated or not, though, we all want to sleep with each other together, but they don't make poly beds that would have enough space... unless you've got 20,000 to spend on a UltraKing.

Taking the leap Wifey, Nik and I spent the last couple of weekends looking for our new place together and finally found it. We have all agreed that moving in together would be best if we moved into a new place, instead of trying to move into each other's space. With that being said, one of...

Aha! here is an example of a reasonable boundary/standard. Being informed of an activity that involves people not inside the poly relationship type you have is not limiting. Although, depending on the relationship-type, certain things might already be known factors. "Talk to me before you...

At work now and it sure sucks! LOL Luckily, I run the IT department so I'm not limited to what I do with my computer. I agree that discussing it without the expectation of change to get down to the bottom of why boundaries should be set with your partner(s) is an awesome idea. Vulnerability is...

Praise Aphrodite! I've never understood boundaries in a relationship. It's not fair to your other partner(s) that there relationship is being dictated to appease another persons comfort level. I really think this has more to do with insecurities or other internal issues, whether its jealousy...

The difference is that you probably ask if something is bothering him. I'm talking about doing some thinking before talking, or talk to him/her and ask for help getting to the bottom before posing unrealistic boundaries.

Rarely do I disagree with Redpepper, but here I do. You should think about why this boundary is something you need before discussing it. What is the point of talking to someone about how you feel if they can just continue on like you didn't say anything? You already identified you differ in the...

This is great info..... but it is in essence things that I feel any healthy poly person/relationship would be aware of. There is no pro with out con. But who focuses on the negative to have a positive outcome? I know there are some who are naturally negative nancy's but not many go into a car...

Late comment....But if you already agreed to poly and now have a change of heart then that should have been discussed before marriage especially if that is a contingency of you marring her. I also wonder if there was a sense of unhappiness why was there a marriage proposal...I'd suggest you pump...

Go where they are and talk a walk around a park

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