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I have been surprised at the times when I hear that people lie when their partner is open to the truth without repercussion. It may be something that can happen again. Or it may have been a one time issue that will not repeat. I think you have to understand why he lied in the first place to...

I am in a quad where my wife and I are dating another couple. One time my wife is talking to me and she says something like "I don't think i could share my boyfriend with another woman." (This was because someone at his work was flirting with him.) I just looked at her and asked, "Like his...

Robert Heinlein wrote about polyamory a lot in his books (though many get weird fast and his characterization of women left something to be desired.) But he dealt with many types of marriage like ones that were more like a club with a fixed number of members. I would hope that it would be...

We have talked about moving in with the couple we are dating. But I am trying to stick to the advise I one heard: "Do not move, change jobs or move in until after 6 months of dating." NRE can easily hide issues that may later come up. But I completely understand the temptation.

Maybe he would have told you later. Maybe not. At least he was honest when asked. And people do dumb things in the heat of the moment. You have to make some safer sex choices. But I would focus more on the idea that he was honest when asked and talk about how to avoid this in the future.

Vetos tend to be a bad thing long term. Some people use it short term as a crutch to help their other partner along. It is better to go with an idea where you agree to work through issues as they arise. Your partner will have to realize that other relationships are not a threat because...

Let me put my ASCII art skills to the test: o---o |\..| |.\.| |..\| x---o It is a quad where I am the 'x'. My wife is dating my girlfriend's husband. I drew a diagonal because my wife and my girlfriend are opened to a possible more-than-friendly but currently undetermined relationship.

It sounds like you are progressing pretty well. Being ok with all of this goes against social norms and requires a lot of learning about yourself. So give yourself credit for making it this far. Try to understand what bothers you about your gf kissing this guy or bring with the guy. Is it...

I wouldn't make too much out of them starting up when you leave the room. There are a lot of possibilities. It could be NRE. It could be that they feel awkward and feel sex would break the tension. It could be that it is easier to start up sex when it is two people than three. I think it is...

You could get a meeting of your friends and your wife to talk about what happened. Make it a general airing of feelings. Try to encourage everyone to honestly say what they want/desire. It may be awkward at first, but it could open up new grounds.

Similar situation here. It started out out with friends of my wife and I. It was suppose to be more of a friends with benefits type relationship, but it went full poly very quickly. We are figuring out things as we go. So far, we have managed to work past many issues. The main advise I have...

Are you interested in both of them? Have they expressed an interest in you? Have you ever tried polyamory before? But beyond that it is about reading up on it, communication and finding good people.

Why not use the word "warlock." Isn't that a male witch? (Just curious.)

If magic were real, then it should be able to be studied in a scientific type of experiment. And then it would becomes science. This is in a sense the premise to Ghostbusters.

The idea is based on whether someone is being dogmatic or being skeptical. You can not outargue dogma. If someone says nothing will change their mind, you are dealing with dogma. If someone says something like "If XXX happened or if YYY happened, then I may change my belief" you may be dealing...