Recent content by QuestioningMono

It's over. I've moved to the 2nd bedroom. Everything except my clothes from the closet and dresser are gone. He even brought a pair of my flipflops that had slid under the dresser in, just for spite. He does not care at all about how I am feeling. He is living by his other head, and can't see...

Well, on the drive home (we carpool), he told me how he was feeling, that I was cornering him, closing him into a corner. He made a decision. He told me to get my finances together, basically, and to look for an apartment to move into. Yes, you read that correctly. After a 4+ year off-and-on...

Yes, that is what I believe. I have thought of that. I travel to MD quite often, at least once a month, but have never met this other man IRL. Never planned on it. I am so tempted to let the other man know that I'll be in town in a few weeks, to let my SO know I'm going to meet up with this...

Just a few weeks ago, he would get upset when I talked to a gentleman in MD. Got jealous, asked all sorts of questions. I was friendly with the other man. Because my SO got upset, I stopped talking to the other man. Now, because he has her in his life, when I mentioned that the other man...

I take, from reading your reply, that you are both poly. You see others as well as him seeing others. That is where I am different. I am mono, though he thinks I am poly, just haven't realized it. If I were poly, I wouldn't be so upset at this entire situation. He has stated what he sees in...

What I'm afraid of is that I won't be able to accept that he loves her, loves another, wants to be physically intimate, not just on an emotional basis with her. In the past, he would pitch a fit if I even mentioned someone was interested in me. I look at this as there's no way he'd accept me...

We've known each other four years. I live with him. He wants to marry me. He's only known her for 6 months.

I've tried and tried to do this, to make him happy and keep him happy. I just can't. I am not happy with what he wants, as if I'm not enough. The more he talks to her, the more I get upset. When he takes time from me, I can see, I can feel he wants to be with her, or talk about her. I watched...

?? What about when your Poly SO tells you something or shares something with you that is taken "special" then to turn around and find out he's shared the same thing with .... his girl... whatever you want to call it. Same sayings, a song that fits you to a "T" and find out/hear him call her...

I don't see the benefits to me, as the mono in a poly relationship. All I see and am getting is grief, pain and anger. I have tried, time after time, to understand, and each time it has backfired, leaving me more dead inside.